I'm a lurker so know how harsh this forum can be.
I have a degree, but found out I was pregnant 3 weeks before my final exams. I was in a long distance relationship with my partner, who was back in my home town and we’d been together almost a year, however known each other for nearly 3 years before getting together after meeting through an after school club. We couldn’t go through with an abortion so after finishing my exams, graduating and moving in together, in our home town, our daughter came along.
P works two jobs so that I can stay at home with our daughter who has just turned 1, although we plan for me to be working hopefully within the next year or so as I’d like to put my degree to use. We do pretty well (if I do say so myself).
P is brilliant father to our DD; always helped with night feeds where he could, does bath and bedtimes, never stopped me going out with friends, love spending time with her. I don’t expect him to help round the house due to doing two jobs but he does the occasional washing load and loves washing up.
P has an aunt (mother-in-laws sister) who is only 10 years older than him. And I am sure that she is jealous of the life we live. She has 4 children with 3 different fathers, non of whom she’s in a relationship with and non of them pay for their child/ren or see them. She is also unemployed herself through choice. She’s constantly moaning to GMIL, and to MIL about how unfair it is that my DD has a brilliant father when her children don’t. If she see’s me, she makes a point of asking when we’ll be having more children as apparently her youngest two are the best of friends because they have such a small age gap between them (they’re 2 and 3) and complaining that its unfair on DD or my fertility will drop when I tell her to mind her own business I’d like to wait awhile, I’m only nearly 24 fgs I have at least 10-12 years fertility left.
She tells P off for spending money on DD but not on his cousins, or when I meet up with MIL/Father in Law or other women who have children the same ages as DD without inviting her along. Apparently because her younger two are at home with her all the time and they’re related to my DD then we should be meeting up regularly. If we do something without her or she doesn’t like then she moans and complains to GMIL or her brother until they try and persuade us to do things her way for example, when DD turned 1 last week I had a party with a few of the other mothers and their babies from my NCT group, just a little tea party with wine tea and cake for the mums and juice/milk and cake for babies. It was a quiet affair the day before DDs actual birthday. I knew family would pop in the day after on her actual birthday so wasn’t worried about them. However Aunt got other ideas and turned up at the tea party with all 4 children in tow because apparently “they felt left out”, the children are 12, 8, 3 and 2, the oldest baby was 14months the youngest was 10.5months, so I can’t understand how the children would feel left out.
Another example is with my wedding. P proposed to me when I was 6months pregnant. The money for the ring was given to him by PILs as they had recently bought their daughter (then 17) a car and driving lessons. Aunt of course moaned about this, saying it wasn’t fair that MIL buys things for her own children but not for Aunts children.
P and I are getting married later this year, and Aunt is annoyed because I haven’t asked her and her 3 daughters to be my bridesmaids. She asked me who my maid of honour is and when I said I was going to ask my SIL (my brothers wife) she told me I was being stupid because she wasn’t real family like she is.
Please tell me I’m not paranoid and this woman is deluded annoying, any ideas how I can get rid of her as well?