LTB?

[betweenmarchandmay]

What would actually drive you to leave? Especially if it meant a lot of disruption to your DC?

Thank you AF. I will

What a really nasty thread.

Devoted to hatred.

Devoted to hatred?
Please elaborate on that.

Yes, because we should continue a relationship with those people who treat us badly ?

Actually don't. I'm not really interested.

Devoted to hatred? hmm
Please elaborate on that.

Not sure I need to, the OP said it all

Treating the children badly

The op was two sentences long. Not sure exactly how it conveys quite so much.

My unhappiness or that of the children. Basically.
If I was unhappy, I would leave.

I must be missing the incitement of hatred part of the two sentences.

I think I'm missing it as well.

It's not thrown around, I don't think.

The thing is that what makes an unhappy or unhealthy relationship is not the big, one off, easy to quantify events. It's small things and often lack of things rather than an action.

Lack of support. Lack of empathy. Lack of seeing you as a person worthy of respect and admiration. Those are the kinds of things which end marriages.

Abuse -emotional or physical of me or children.
or Cheating -although don't know if I could forgive it if there were circumstances and he was apologetic.

Struggling to see what's nasty about any bit of the thread at all .

Interesting thread and close to my heart at the moment.
I'm waiting it out hoping things will improve but the trust has gone.
It's a scary place to be though and having the courage to let go and believe it's the right choice is a terrifying though.
For those of you've who've been on the reviving end of infidelity, what are the signs?

you can generally tell a nasty thread on here by who responds to it the most......

In the end it was cheating.
Thought I could get over it but knew I couldn't and had to end it.

The signs of a cheat?
I think there's a 'cheaters script' around somewhere.
For me it was his phone.
He got very secretive with it and didn't leave it anywhere I might see it.
He was always looking at it as well.
He also got a bit nasty and started to 'judge' my parenting.
Also lost some weight and got his hair done.
It was his whole attitude really.
I could just tell something was off.
I just 'knew'.

you can generally tell a nasty thread on here by who responds to it the most......

That would be AnyFucker then?

Agree with AF.
In my marriage there wasn't cheating or abuse. But I was so desperately unhappy, there was no affection & bit by bit my self esteem cracked.
We functioned as a family, no arguing but in same breath, no kindness- what kind of example was I setting my son of a marriage.

So, I guess I am saying if you aren't happy in a relationship you have every right to leave it.

Partial why bump the thread just to say that?