AIBU to want a fuss on my birthday?

[glitternanny]

mid 30s single mum and I'm actually dreading my birthday (in a few weeks).

I work with kids but 2 of my 3 jobs are new and I don't think any of them have remembered/noted my birthday.

I'd just like people to remember without facebook prompting them (I've hidden it on Facebook)

I'm now actually going on a course after work on my birthday and will sleepover that night at the job I've had for 3 years.

does it really matter when my only other option is a takeaway with my parents who travel for an hour yo get to me and I don't get home until 7:30pm anyway....

im still feeling apprehensive tho.

Not at all. Everyone is different. Some would hate a fuss, others think it feels really special. Some just like to feel like they're remembered.

Can you find some time to take for yourself or treat yourself to something?

Or take a cake to where you're sleeping and share it out? Nothing wrong with saying it's my birthday today so I brought us a huge cake!

Your birthday is in a few weeks . You are being a bit childish IMO. Sorry. It is nice to have a special day on or around your birthday. On the whole, if I want t make it a nice day then I organise something. Some years have been a write off, others rather lovely.

Remind your children so they can make cards and yes, tell your colleagues and maybe they will buy you a drink. But getting worries weeks ahead is silly.

I think the last time I celebrated my birthday was my 18th. No one has ever really bothered since then. People at my work book the week off for their birthday
It's just another day isn't it? This year my husband and daughter were ill so I looked after them and had beans on toast for dinner!

You are perhaps being a tad unreasonable about expecting people to remember it's your birthday (the new work colleagues especially). I remember the birthday dates of close friends and family only, and I don't think I'm that unusual. I certainly don't know my work colleagues birthdays. If you want to do something for your birthday then you may have to try and organise it yourself. It doesn't have to be on your birthday itself if you're working that day. x

YANBU to want a fuss, however I think this year due to your circumstances you may have to be the one to spoil yourself.

Make sure you take a cake into work - let them know it's your birthday. You said you are staying overnight at your job - could you not book yourself into a nice hotel instead as a treat? Big comfy bed and snuggly dressing gown!

Do remind your kids that your birthday is coming up - or even mention it to their childminder/babysitter as they may help your kids make cards for you. I helped my DS make my DH a card which he loved.
When your home with your kids make a special birthday dinner and get a small cake and some candles. They'll like singing happy birthday to you and blowing out the candles

If you want some fuss I suggest unhiding your birthday on Facebook for a start.

The only way most people know it's their colleagues birthdays is when they bring cakes in and say 'it's my birthday today!'

Buy yourself a present and take cakes over to where youre sleeping.
Drop hints to your friends or organise some drinks for the weekend.

I think you are being a tad unreasonable, mostly expecting your collegues to make a fuss.

When it was my birthday last year we moved house the day before and were skint from the expense of it. I didnt get a card of my DP or my kids and as for a present - forget it. We were just too busy and skint to do anything. But I didnt get upset - it is what it is.

You should make it special yourself, treats and do nice things either with or without the kids.

I'd just like people to remember without facebook prompting them (I've hidden it on Facebook

But how is that any different than a reminder in a diary? baffled

Wow, I think you sound a bit immature expecting work people to remember your birthday. No offence but it probably isn't THAT important to others

Well if you hide it on facebook you can't complain that people don't remember, you can't have it both ways. I have mine hidden on facebook because I don't want any fuss made on my birthday and prefer it to pass unnoticed.