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To cancel a tinder date as he's posted a semi naked photo this morning with a wink

19 replies

Pprice · 29/01/2015 08:33

I'm quite new to tinder, maybe I'm being a bit of a cradle snatcher but I get a lot of attention.

Guy I'm supposed to have a drink with tonight has just posted a half naked photo with a ;)

Aibu to think this is a bit disrespectful as we have first date tonight?

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antimatter · 29/01/2015 08:35

he is telling you what he is after - it's up to you whether you like it or not

rambunctious · 29/01/2015 08:35

Yup. Move on.

ourglass · 29/01/2015 08:35

He just wants to fuck you and that's about it probably.

Up to you.

Bakeoffcakes · 29/01/2015 08:36

He letting you know exactly what he expects tonight.

I'd cancel the date, unless that's what you want.

elQuintoConyo · 29/01/2015 08:36

If you aren't up for what is obviously a bottycall, run.

Perfectlypurple · 29/01/2015 08:37

I'd cancel. It sounds like he is only after one thing.

UrsulaBuffay · 29/01/2015 08:38

That is what tinder is for try something like Match

nilbyname · 29/01/2015 08:38

It's tinder though!

I'd go out and have sex with him if I felt like it, as I had joined tinder for casual hook ups. That's what it's designed for, or least that's it's rep??

Northumberlandlass · 29/01/2015 08:40

I got the impression that is pretty much what Tinder is about? I could of course be wrong.
I don't think it's disrespectful as such, but if it's not what you are looking for, then yes, cancel.

froomeonthebroom · 29/01/2015 08:42

Grin @ el's botty call!

KingJoffreyObviouslyWatchesHol · 29/01/2015 08:44

Tinder is just hook ups.

No strings sex.

It's not a dating site.

Ainmnua · 29/01/2015 08:44

I thought Tinder was for meeting up for casual dates and sex too. I didn't think it was meant for relationships.

Though I've never been on it so what do I know.

elQuintoConyo · 29/01/2015 08:45

Freudian slip froomeonthebroom Grin

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 29/01/2015 08:46

He's not shy Grin.

If you're up for casual sex then all well and good. If not, maybe look away from Tinder.

InfinitySeven · 29/01/2015 08:47

Yep, this is what Tinder is about. Your "date" is spending some time together before having sex.

It's not a dating service. Some people there might be looking for a relationship, but the vast majority are just looking for sex.

BarbarianMum · 29/01/2015 08:52

What are you expecting from this "date" exactly? I was under the impression that tinder dates were just to check out the person you were proposing to sleep with to check that you wanted to go through with it.

rednailsredheart · 29/01/2015 08:53

If you want "respectful" then get off of Tinder, which is predominately used for casual sex. He sounds like the typical knob end I would expect to find on the site.

I suggest sending THIS in response to the guy.

Then go and set up a profile on a different site!

Specificity · 29/01/2015 08:56

Depends, did he look good? Wink

I don't think tinder is the site for long term, meaningful relationships but if you fancy a shag he is obviously offering.

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Pprice · 29/01/2015 08:59

Well he said he was looking for a relationship that's why I'm surprised.

He does look very good though lol and did have shirtless photos in his profile when I messaged him

I guess all 20 something's are the same

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