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to not go to wedding?

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stayorgooo · 29/01/2015 00:10

Name changed.

Wedding of old friend this weekend at the other end of the country. We were looking forward to going as a family: me, dh, and dd. Hotel booked etc.

Dd has just come down with chicken pox. She obviously won't be able to come to the wedding now.

Options are:

  1. we all stay home
  2. I go alone and dh stays with dd. However I can't drive and it is very difficult to get to. I have tried and failed to source a lift. I have mobility problems so would struggle with public transport on my own.
  3. We all go but dh stays in with dd during the wedding. I don't know if the hotel would allow a poxy child to stay however.

Wwyd?

OP posts:
littleleftie · 29/01/2015 19:36

Why are you saying you are immune from CP OP?

I have had it twice, once as a child and again as an adult. I know quite a few people who have had it more than once.

I would be really upset if I was at a wedding and someone who knew thei child had a highly infectious disease was there - especially if I were pregnant or vulnerable.

I would go for option 1 - you all stay home.

stayorgooo · 29/01/2015 20:16

Because little I have had a blood test which has proven than I am immune (during pregnancy, it is a standard blood test at booking in).

OP posts:
gamerchick · 29/01/2015 20:22

You can't catch shingles Angry

hamptoncourt · 29/01/2015 20:35

Yeah I have had chicken pox twice. XH had it THREE TIMES!!! The GP had all his bloods done the third time but it was definitely CP again ( not shingles )

Has your DH had the blood test OP? If he has been exposed to DS then he could potentially be carrying the virus too couldn't he?

I wouldn't risk going, it's just not fair on other guests is it? As PP have said, if someone has cancer, is pregnant or otherwise frail it could be really serious and I wouldn't want that on my conscience.

littleleftie · 29/01/2015 20:39

Ooh they didn't do that test in my day OP (old gimmer emoticon) At least you know you wouldn't be a danger then.

I still think I would stay home with DD though.

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