DS 7 losing stuff...

[Sussexbelle73]

AIBU to be utterly sick of DS losing stuff- its doing my head in. Last week he lost hat and scarf in school. Since xmas we have lost 3 jumpers, a school bag and a pair of gloves.
Last term a brand new pair of clarks shoes went missing & he came home in a similar very battered pair.

Its driving me mad- have looked in lost property in school to no avail. We label stuff but it makes no difference.

Feel very bad as I shouted at DS earlier- mostly born out of frustration that every week something goes missing.

AIBU to be bloody cross and fed up of it?

YABU - he is only 7

Poor little boy having his mother shouting at him and terrifying him

yabu

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YABU shouting at him - he's 7

talk to the school and check when you pick him up that he has everything

How about talking through strategies with him? For example, "How about putting your scarf in your coat sleeve when you take your coat off? That way it won't fall off your peg."

Ask where he usually puts his jumper when he takes it off and maybe suggest he puts it in his bag whenever he takes it off. I know it might not always be possible (say he's in the dinner hall) but at least it might get him thinking about things that way.

YY to checking daily and going to look straightaway. The only times we've completely lost things is when I haven't had time to go back in (or forgot to check DD had everything) and looking the next day means things could have been moved / tidied into lost property (where loads of other items are or another child might then pick it up).

Your role as his mother is to TEACH HIM these things.

At his age he doesn't understand the value of money or possessions and is down to you to teach him that in a calm and controlled way.

Children with dyslexia type SPlDs lose things all the time - they need strategies as they can't keep everything in their heads. Be gentle and try and help him.

Oh I feel your pain! I wish I could tell you it gets better but I'm still waiting for DS to crack it...

Don't be hard on yourself for shouting - it is really frustrating when they lose stuff, and it always is the expensive stuff

Nope, YANBU. worth a moan to the teacher/ getting the TA onside?

yanbu, my dd is 4.10 and I sent her in to school without her cardigan after she "lost" 2 and a jumper in the space of a week. They all came back that day.

Not sure what I'd do at age 7, but certainly in secondary school, I didn't get replacements bought (mum couldn't afford it), so anything I lost I had to do without or buy a replacement myself with pocket money. I hardly lost anything.

I think I'd chat to the teacher & TA about it and check on pick up that he had everything. DD is 5yo and if she lost her gloves then I wouldn't let her wear any other ones, she'd just have to get cold hands.

I also made sure DD knew what her name tapes looked like and what her labels looked like in her shoes. Kind of drummed it into her that these were her things and she needed to make sure she put the right things back on. When she lost her pinafore (after PE) I did keep on at her to make sure her clothes were put on her chair/desk and not muddled up with others (it went home in a boys PE bag so did come back to school).

Sympathies though, it is frustrating.

Can he have a pictorial list of what he needs each day? I've done this with special needs kids before (in role as teacher). It has photos of everything they need to take home. I normally put the pictures on a keyring and attach it to their school bag!

As PP said - the 'losing' business has stopped ever since I stopped buying replacements. DD is 7.

DS13 still does the same. He now has to pay for all replacements or do without. Has made no difference! This is not a malicious act, it is just kids being dopey absent minded kids. Choose your sanction and stick to it but do not expect to see much change!