To feel really sad for DS

[WhenIsItHappyTime]

Have name changed, not for this thread, but just for a change, new year etc!

Anyway, feeling really sorry for DS (17) tonight, he's been dumped by his gf and it would seem her mother has had a big say in proceedings.
This is his second gf ever and they have both dumped him
He has now stormed off to bed, slamming doors on the way, saying that he's not good enough for anyone,
It breaks my heart to see him like this, she was here at the weekend and he was so happy, and now this.
I've just sent him a little txt telling him he's lovely and there's plenty more fish in the sea (corny but true!?) etc etc
It's pants seeing them upset isn't it?

Whilst putting DD and DS (14 & 10)to bed...DD got THE TEXT....cue hysterics,,,plenty more fish talk, hugs and sobs etc....eventually go to see DS who is lying stiff as a board in bed with a wide eyed look...I asked had he learnt anything from his Dsiss experience.....he said 'Never dump a girl by text'!...we often had a talk about that night and how to let someone down gently..

Sorry OP...I really hope your DS is fine...my older boy came home, sobbed for an hour in my arms, fell asleep...got up next morning, brushed himself down and never mentioned her again...4 years later is so loved up with a girl who is right for him...I too remember saying that my DCs were never going to leave their Mummy...my Dmum said the same!!

Give him some man food tonight and more hugs. My 17 yr old ended it with his ex last year after 18 months of her being an utter bitch. He was still devastated. DP (who's only been in our lives 4-5 years) stayed up with him, with beer and they talked and talked until 3am. Sex talk and stuff that I didn't need to know

Aah there's a lot of lovely mums and dads out there. DS was chatting to DH last night, just 'man to man' I didn't ask!
Apparently gf has txt him this morning and I get the feeling her parents may have had a big hand in the breakup. Gf is doing her GCSE's so I can understand her concern but he only saw her twice a week!
I can see this may be ongoing,

I don't know if I'm going to hate the the girls who do want to go out with my baby more or the ones who don't!!!!
Luckily he's only 6 and prefers Ninja Turtles to girls.
Hope your son is Ok OP, it's much easier when it's a scraped knee and magic mummy kisses make it all better.

He's home from work, I've got him fish fingers and chips for tea (his request!) and he's having a sleep. Don't think he slept much last night.
There's been no contact from mother or daughter today

Update
DS mentioned casually last night that gf is coming here on sunday. Wtf?!
He then got all stroppy when I told him not to be a mug as shes dumped you once, what about her mother etc etc
I give up, this is hard work!
How am I gonna look that little
bitch girl in the eye after the upset she caused him

I don't know, but you'd better get used it, plenty more of this teenage angst to come. Better now than when he's married with two bairns! Practice makes perfect.

Or go out.

This made me laugh though!! (Clearly not the DD's upset, but the DS's answer)

Add message | Report | Message poster Marylou62 Wed 28-Jan-15 09:09:09
Whilst putting DD and DS (14 & 10)to bed...DD got THE TEXT....cue hysterics,,,plenty more fish talk, hugs and sobs etc....eventually go to see DS who is lying stiff as a board in bed with a wide eyed look...I asked had he learnt anything from his Dsiss experience.....he said 'Never dump a girl by text'!...we often had a talk about that night and how to let someone down gently..

For some reason it just creased me up. Smart kid. Will go far!

That made me laugh too chipping
Oh the drama! I wouldn't want to be a teenager in love again!
Tbh I know we just want them to be happy but her mother interfering doesnt bode well, but he wont listen.
I shall just sit by and wait for the next fallout. its like flippin eastenders

Whenisit - argh! She's coming over? Be warned, it took months of them getting back together and splitting, her promising to change yadda yadda. I'd stock up on fish fingers

[hellkitty] I will!
Sounds like he was 'dumped' after pressure from her mother so I havnt the foggiest whats going on now.
DH has advised I leave them to it and dont get involved, which i will do.
but how dare that little bitch mess with his head

It's a pain having boys!!!!
We did all the backing him up, talking waaay into the nights and feeding him nachos - his comfort food! The next week they'd be back together so we just let them get on with it. Then picked up the pieces

Mine is being very mysterious lately so I'm expecting a new gf to be mentioned any day. DP has a fiver on it being this needy girl who cuts herself, oh ffs!

Oh no kitty I feel your pain.
Maybe we should start a support group for "mums with sons who attract the wrong sort"
we could have a revolving cupboard full of nachos and fish fingers

It probably doesn't help that we were teenage girls once

Poor lad. I remember being 17 years old myself and absolutely heartbroken because my first relationship had ended.
He needs to get out and see his friends, keep himself busy. Unfortunately he has more than likely had his first taste of interfering MILs.

My own DB's first serious GF cheAted on him just before Christmas. He's in a better place now but it was awful seeing my little brother so upset.
Hope he's feeling better soon for both of you and lots of for him