To be angry with my husband about this

[pinetree2203]

Hi husband has the man flu, yesterday and today he didnt go to work and I did. Am I being unreasonable here? He hasnt lifted a finger and yesterday when I came home he was on the sofa with the duvet on and watching telly. I think he watched telly all day yesterday. If I'm ever ill and dont go to work at least I pick my dirty socks from the floor!! agghh

onedamnthing I thought there was new research to show that men do actually get sicker than women (higher temperature etc) when they get viruses. Off to Google.

Ok well a quick look shows a whole lot of articles and research contradicting each other.

As far as the OP, if I'm too sick to work I'm too sick to do housework.

You should have just snogged him frequently.

Then you both could have had man flu and Kay on the sofa watching TV together

(I may have done this....)

What do you think he should be doing at home when he is off work sick OP?

give the poor guy a break, you'll get your turn at feeling like crap and getting a few days off.

Sheesh you sound nice!
If I'm ill, the sofa with a duvet is where I'm at. No housework.

If he's got the flu then YABU - it's just a pair of socks. Duvet in the couch, watching crap tv is what you should be doing when you are sick - not tidying up.

The only thing I insist on when DH is ill is that he doesn't leave snotty tissues all over the house. Not fair on everyone else to be expected to pick up his germy snot rags and risk getting sick and no excuse for it when he could put then in a carrier bag I placed beside him for that very purpose

Poor bloke. I hope he gets better soon.

I know exactly what you mean, op. Somehow I am never quite as utterly, shiftlessly sofa-bound as dh when I am ill. I find it annoying too.

Then you both could have had man flu and Kay on the sofa watching TV together

SlicedAndDiced I don't now who this Kay woman is, but if they're too ill to go to work, they're too ill to 'have her' on the sofa!

You sound very self centred worrying about your problems... If he is too sick for work, then he should be sleeping and recovering.

My first thoughts when my partner is sick is what I can do to help them recover or feel better. Maybe chill out and offer him a cup of lemon tea?

If he's got the flu then actually, this current strain of it means that you can do absolutely fuck all. So perhaps give him a break and a little spot of looking after?

I don't think that it is the old 'man-flu' chestnut, but that men don't feel the same level of necessity to be 'super woman' and prove themselves while they are sick. I long ago stopped trying to prove anything to anyone, and if I'm sick, well then other than absolute necessities (so basically feeding the child and the dogs) then everything else can wait.

Is the world really going to fall apart because of a pair of socks on the floor?

The only thing I insist on when DH is ill is that he doesn't leave snotty tissues all over the house.

OMG that is properly foul!

WTF is wrong with him?

I'd be cross if a child thought that was acceptable behaviour.

Ugh.

YABU. 'Man flu' is such a twattish term.

People should be kind to their partners when they are unwell.

There's a really sad thread at the moment by a woman whose husband is horrible to her when she is ill, and this is how my ExH was. It was as though I had no right ever to be unwell, as if it were some kind of moral failing on my part. It wasn't nice.

I'm off work at the moment (medically certified), and on the rare occasions I manage to do stuff (a load of washing, empty/load the dishwasher type stuff) I get a bollocking from dh when he gets home for doing too much. I know which relationship I'd rather be in op!

YABTFU. If I came in from work and complained about housework not done when DW were sick I would be out on mine arse.