To be offended by this?

[LittleMissRayofHope]

Several months back my DD developed a nasty d&v bug, I had just had a new born and my DH did much of the caring for dd so he got it from her.

The night he developed it we had eaten a home made curry (as in paste and coconut cream and spices etc) one we have eaten hundreds of times. It's a regular on my meal planner as its a winner.

Since then DH has claimed he can't eat it as it gave him the d&v bug. I was annoyed but could understand an association so let it go.
Yet, every time I've tried to cook any form of curry he says he doesn't fancy it. But he will happily go out for curry. I mean he'll go out to get take out or go for curry on his lunch break.

So I'm seeing that the only common factor is me. Basically he won't eat a curry if I cook it.

Would this annoy you? Or am IBU for being put out by this completely irrational behaviour?

Could it be about home cooked curry rather than curry cooked by you?

What would he be like if you got a curry delivery to have at home?

Either way, he's not trying to offend you on purpose. People don't choose to stop eating something they previously enjoyed for no reason. I get how you feel, I'd take it more personally than is rational if my DH didn't like my cooking as well. But I think you need to get over it because there's nothing you can do.

Op my mother made the most beautiful chocolate cake when I was small. It was literally favourite food. Then it was the last thing I ate before I was struck down by an awful d&v bug and I never touched it again. The association was too strong even thinking about it here makes me feel queasy. I have eaten other chocolate cakes since although I am no longer a big fan. I don't know if that helps but from my experience it is not the cooking it is the assiciation.

Ds got a nasty vomiting bug that triggered his reflux (that we thought he had outgrown) so he carried on vomiting for nearly three months on and off. He got the bug the day he went to a hot dog place with his friends family. Poor kid would say he felt sick every time we drove past that hot dog place. It's the thought of your curry OP, so sorry he is still associating it with the vomiting bug.

I had a takeaway one evening, during the early hours I was really sick with a bug going through the household and all I was vomiting was this bloody byriani.
I cannot eat takeaway Indian curry of any type now, yet I can eat Chinese curry and homemade too. It's just the thought of an Indian takeaway that makes me feel sick just thinking about it.

It's not personal, or even logical,but simply psychological and out of conscious control. Your DH cannot face homemade curry. Please don't take offence.

My schoolfriends and I bought fish and chips from a chip shop long before H&S came into being. I was really ill afterwards and kept bringing up a taste of egg. I couldn't eat eggs for months.

As other posters have said, it could be your particular recipe. Perhaps the OP's DH will come back to it one day. I found that other fish and chip shops did not have the same effect on me

Is anyone reading the OP's posts at all??

It's only HER curry that he won't eat. All the "I couldn't eat xyz for years and years, blah blah blah" are meaningless - THE MAN IS EATING CURRY - LOTS AND LOTS OF CURRY!!

Sorry, just got a bit irate there ! OP, I'd be very annoyed too!

My sympathy is with your dh too. It's sub-concious association. It's not logical.
Some people have a real fear of spiders or worms - they know they can't hurt them, it's not logical but it's just n their mind.
It's the same kind of thing here - some people physically gag at the thought of having something they had eaten before they were seriously sick. They know if wasn't that that caused it when then discuss it logically, but that doesn't stop the feeling.
You'll just have to laugh this one off, I think.

I can't eat Branston pickle anymore

It's an inherited disgust thing ie you don't want to eat the food that you associate with being ill. Something to do with protecting our ancestors from eating poisonous or dangerous foods. He can't help it.

I was once violently ill after eating pomegranates and even though the illness was due to sea sickness I still can't eat them 37 years later.

I wouldn't be offended by it. Of course the curry didn't give him the d&v, but with such a strong and recent association, I can see why it has turned him off.

As a young adult, I got horrendously ill very shortly after eating what used to be my favourite dish. I know that the food was not responsible, but to this day, I can't bring myself to eat it.

Unfortunately it is probably the association, it's different out of the house but in it with you cooking as before- it probably brings back memories. Or there's a real difference between your curries and the one she can buy.

I was violently sick with appendicitis, I can eat the same soup when made in restaurants or from the fridge containers but normal cream of tomato- vomit city.

I once ate far too many of those Chocolate footballs that Thorntons used to have. Just Chocolate wrapped in foil and it looked like a football hence the name Chocolate footballs.

Well I spewed my guts up and shat myself silly. Never eaten them since. Even when I see them in other shops I'm reminded of that horrible night and my Mum changing my sheets numerous times.

Association is a strange thing.