I will do my best not to drip feed, but it is quite a long story.
Essentially, known SIL for over 15 years. When she had young kids she seemed very keen on seeing me, I used to go round (at her request) at least once a week for drinks, chat etc. Occaisional nights out. She can be quite verbally aggressive and often makes jokes about how much of a "bitch" she is. She prides herself on "telling it like it is" and can be really catty about other family members.
Both of our situations have changed considerably. She is divorced now, has a new fella (been with for a few years now), she is a SAHM with both kids nearing secondary school age. I had a baby last year and going back to work soon
In the past few years we have seen each other less and less, which is her decision. If I do make plans with her she often cancels. I would imagine that she needed me when her kids were young, and perhaps her marriage was unhappy, and now she is happier and her kids are older she doesn't need my friendship. Fair enough.
but when I do see her, she says how much she wants a relationship with my son, and a better relationship with my DH, her brother. If that is what she wants then surely her cancelling meet ups and rarely seeing us isn't going to help?
Can anyone brighter than me tell me what is going on? I have come to the conclusion that she doesn't like me, but I was good enough when she needed someone.