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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To keep all my books?

41 replies

Brittapieandchips · 24/01/2015 22:58

I'm moving in with my parents and nana, with my kids. Various reasons for it, but I have a kind of small bed sit room, and the DDs have a bedroom next door. Then my nana has her own granny flat and my parents have the main living room. We're not rich or anything, it's a big house because it has three houses worth of people in it :-D. Me and the kids (and everyone really) kind of roam the house, we basically just sit wherever what we want to do is happening, but we have our own spaces to be 'in charge' of.

ANYHOW. Sorting out stuff to move in, I've got rid of a lot, but refused to get rid of any books. This means that most of the wall space in my room is covered in bookshelves, but I like it, I think it looks cosy and increases heat insulation (single glazing is cold when you are used to houses that aren't full of random draughts...) and soundproofing (I'm a single 30yo, I have important discussions with my friends and netflix marathons to do without earwigging children/my parents/slightly confused old lady). They say I'm being ridiculous and that nobody needs to lose 23cm of space around the edge of an already small room to catch dust on books that I'll probably never read again anyway.

So... AIBU? Does my radically reduced personal space (but increased available living space) require a reduction in printed paper?

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Brittapieandchips · 24/01/2015 23:01

sorry, I wrote that like a wanker!

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Fairenuff · 24/01/2015 23:07

No, YANBU if you have room for them. Why do you ask?

Brittapieandchips · 24/01/2015 23:15

Everyone just seemed to assume that the first thing to downsize would be the books. They aren't first editions or anything, it's not logical in any way.

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AgentZigzag · 24/01/2015 23:16

YABU to move in with your extended family. I mean, why? Why would you do such a thing???

Grin

YANBU to keep your books though, nowt to do with anyone else.

I've been a bit of a book hoarder in my time so I know how easy it is to get emotionally attached to them, but I've trimmed back a bit over the years to make space for new ones.

Brittapieandchips · 24/01/2015 23:17

Zigzag - because I just really enjoy not knowing what the hell is going on or having any privacy, obviously Grin

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LaurieFairyCake · 24/01/2015 23:20

It's either you're room or not.

Harmonious living means not commenting on how other adults you live with, live

AgentZigzag · 24/01/2015 23:24

Obviously Grin

There'd be murders afoot if I did the same, so you're a brave, brave woman.

I know it's not fair to ask as they're all your babies important, but what's your favorite book?

wishmiplass · 24/01/2015 23:28

I will say yanbu, but only if you list some favourite books to give me kindle inspiration (Crime and Punishment downloaded, but fuck that!).

Dawndonnaagain · 24/01/2015 23:38

I couldn't get rid of books, the very thought makes me shudder.

wish have you read The Night Circus?

AgentZigzag · 24/01/2015 23:43

Agent Zigzag's a pretty good read wish Wink

Company of Liars by Karen Maitland sticks in my head as a good one too.

squoosh · 24/01/2015 23:43

Keep the books, 23cm be damned!

Good luck with the move, sounds like a sitcom in the making.

Pipbin · 24/01/2015 23:44

I've read Night Circus if that helps.

I agree, if it's your room and you want to fill it with books then that's your issue.
As an adult moving in with extended family means that you are compromising on having your own house. You are not a child, no one should dictate what you have in your room.

wishmiplass · 24/01/2015 23:45

Hey Down Have just read a review from the Guardian... Not exactly glowing, but I loved loved loved Jonathan Strange... similar?

QuintlessShadows · 24/01/2015 23:50

I have moved many times, and I regret only the boxes of books that went to the charity shop. I decided that all my crime novels had to go. That included collected works of Agathe Cristie, all my Louis de Bernières (not exactly crime!), Iain Rankin, Lee Child, Mo Hayder and all my Janet Evanovich.

Dont get rid of your books! I miss mine!

WhereYouLeftIt · 24/01/2015 23:54

ANother book to add to your collection?

To keep all my books?
To keep all my books?
SorchaN · 25/01/2015 00:03

I couldn't possibly part with any of my books. Although sometimes I lend them to people and don't get them back. But that's different - as long as I know they have new loving owners.

Pipbin · 25/01/2015 00:11

Don't put all your book in one box Quint, rookie error! Taking them to the charity shop is a step too far.

Brittapieandchips · 25/01/2015 00:11

It does have the hallmarks of a sitcom, slightly. I didn't even mention all the pets, motorbikes, musical instruments, random friends/relatives/neighbours constantly turning up and the fact that the house is basically held together by spare parts and good luck...

It's no wonder I retreat to books, really.

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QuintlessShadows · 25/01/2015 00:12

rookie, I have 7 more boxes in storage, and since then, I have acquired two more bookshelves...

QuintlessShadows · 25/01/2015 00:13

That was to Pipbin!!! I can no longer READ!!!! Shock

QuintlessShadows · 25/01/2015 00:14

Pipbin, from now on you will always be RookieError to me! Grin

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 25/01/2015 00:26

NO! Do not get rid of the books! I got rid of about 20 books 4years ago when I moved and I still regret it now!

Fairenuff · 25/01/2015 00:27

The great thing about sorting books is that your bookshelves only hold those that you love dearly and could never part with.

GretnaGreen · 25/01/2015 00:29

When my mother moved I had to pare down my giganto books collection and it was really hard. I forced myself to give away whatever I really didn't love. My DH doesn't think I've pared it down nearly enough Smile. I do still have lots of books and in my opinion they are the best ornaments so YANBU.

magicstar1 · 25/01/2015 00:48

I collect westerns...have over 500 at last count, and my family always comment on them. How I should get rid, why have I so many etc. some are worth €30 each now as they're rare...but I love rereading them. They're going nowhere!

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