To want to do a teaching qualification, H not happy!?

[midlifemalaise]

My H is not happy that I have returned to education (as well as working) to get a teaching qualification. It's what I've always wanted to do, I gave up my career in fashion industry to bring up and home ed my 2 dds. When both dds entered full time education, now 15 and 11, I decided returning to my old job was logistically not an option. So, I did volunteer work in a school, which he wasn't happy about because I wasn't being paid. I then decided to start my teacher training with a PTLLS qualification and was then lucky enough, as a result, to get a technician position in a college fashion dept.
A year later I got an opportunity to actually teach and do teacher training at same time, a dream come true. I'm earning and learning and loving it!
But.... H not happy, doesn't understand why i want to do this, gets angry if i want to spend my Saturday studying instead of keeping him entertained!!
He makes me feel guilty and keeps stressing how, 'all i do is study!'
"I have to go out to work!"

Might add i contribute plenty to household, never spend money on myself, we have no mortgage and he has about 15k stashed away, so money isn't the issue.

Just having a rant really, can anyone see his point of view? Am I wrong to be upset?

*Throws a tantrum and sulks if i wont have sex regularly, although doesn't understand being constantly pawed at isn't a turn on!!
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Actually sod the money, you have more important things to worry about! He sound like a fucking wanker.

'I'm hoping I can escape then'
This is why he does not want you to be financially independent and is trying to sabotage your studies.
All the more reason to carry on.

he's the sort of person who likes to save and have money put by for 'emergencies'. I thought, at first, someone who was careful with money was quite an attractive trait.
I meant by that, that me not earning as much as him, wasn't a huge issue because we don't have to worry about paying bills.
I hated having to ask him for money when I wasn't working, it hurts your self esteem.
Maybe he liked that 'control' he had before and sees himself losing that?

He sounds controlling and possibly abusive. Do you have children together?

Sorry, ignore that last question - I've just realised that you already said you have two children in school.

we have an 11 yr old dd together, I have dd 15 from previous marriage, (he left me for younger woman when dd was baby) not a good chooser of husbands!

Oh dear! Well, be kind to yourself. It sounds like you're doing the right thing by becoming financially independent. Don't let him hold you back.

Yeah, I bet only he has access to all the money he put by for 'emergencies'.
You had to 'ask' for money.

He just shrugs and sulks in the bedroom

Oh honestly, what a childish thing to do! Sounds like a moody teenager!
I couldn't cope with a man who refused to discuss things like an adult.

Nobody in a marriage should curtail, limit or dictate how the other person develops their life, education or growth. That breeds resentment, and later the controlled one will regret the missed opportunities, and start to blame their partner for shutting doors.
A marriage should be a springboard not a prison.
I think you should go ahead with your studies and get the qualifications and profession you'd like.

This isn't Saudi Arabia, thank goodness!

Thankyou for your support everyone, I know in my heart i'm doing the right thing, now back to my assignment.....