To speak to school about this?

[Pyjamaramadrama]

Something happened with a child at after school club today (away from school), another child hit ds.

It was dealt with however I told ds that if it happens again in school he's to speak to the teacher.

Ds has told me that he can't speak to the teacher as they get but on behaviour report for 'telling tales'.

Aibu to be a bit wtaf about this? I get that they don't want kids running up every 5 minutes with he said/she said. But I'm angry that ds feels that he can't tell anyone if he's been hit as he'll be in trouble.

I'm sure or at least i hope that that's not the intention, but it's obviously coming across that way.

We're talking 5/6 year olds.

I thought I might mention this to the teacher next week.

Your child should feel comfortable and confident raising issues with their teacher, yanbu to bring it up with the teacher.

Yes, discuss it with your child's teacher. That's probably not how the school meant it to come across so this will give them the opportunity to put it right.

Like Euphemia I always ask "is this about something that happened to you".

Mention to the teacher that he has misunderstood the difference between telling tales and reporting a problem.

Do talk to the teacher because it's quite likely that he's misunderstood.

I wouldn't take what DS says seriously Op...at this age they get things mixed up. You need to inform the teacher yourself...and then tell her or him that you told DS to report any further incidents and he seemed to be afraid of being accused of "telling tales" and then tell the teacher you've explained to DS the difference between reporting an assault and telling tales ...so you're confident that should he report any incidents that he won't be in trouble for "telling tales"