I am trying really hard not to be cross but finding it a tad difficult.
dd2 is/was friends with another child in school. Both year 7. Have had said child over for several sleepovers and she is hard work. She is an only child- parents split up and mum in another relationship (not sure if this has any bearing but mentioning it just incase). I haven't had a sleepover where she hasn't caused a fuss. In my opinion she seems very attention seeking. For instance on one occasion the plan was always for her and my daughter to go to the cinema together. It would be mid afternoon and I would drop them there and pick them up. She fully agreed to this until she was actually at our house and started causing a fuss saying she did not want to go unless I went as she might get kidnapped ( we live in a quiet town and I had other plans) I am afraid I told her that she didn't have to go and my dd would invite someone else instead. She went and enjoyed it.
on another occasion she broke my 5 year old sons toy as his friend was over and she wanted it- a tussle happened and the toy was broken. There have been more occasions but I wont go into it now.
Anyway- she has been very suffocating to my dd. She did not like her having other friends and if she my dd did try to spend some time with other people she would be nasty to my dd and then go home crying to her mum that my dd was being horrible. Mum would then be texting me to sort it out.
It came to a head last week really- my dd had been having some trouble with other children picking on her and went to see the head with a letter we had given her. Friend accused my dd of abandoning her and went if in a strop. Every time my dd tried to approach her to talk to her about what was wrong she was told to shut up and go away.
I told my dd that this was just silly behaviour and to give her friend a bit of space. (My dd was upset about how her supposed bff was being so cold and cruel). I put it down to kids being kids and left it at that.
obviously had the txt from her mum saying how upset her dd was and did I know anything and I just reassured her it was typical pre teen drama.
So today I get a message from friends mum saying that she is going to speak to the head on Monday as apparently my dd shouted something trivial to hers and her dd came home crying. Now what my dd apparently said was something that her friend was saying to her all week and had upset my dd. It was nothing serious and I told my dd to ignore it.
My dd is at a friends tonight so I can't speak to her. But I have never ever had a problem with her being unkind. She is the type of person who wants to be everyones friend.
I am feeling a little upset that dd's friend was so horrible to my dd last week and my dd just got on with it. And yet now friends mum is going to the head about something my dd has supposedly said which is completely out of character.
Don't get me wrong I am not from the " my daughter is perfect and doesn't make mistakes" camp. But what was said was so trivial that I just don't understand the whole taking it to the head approach.
For what it is worth- friends mum told me before that her dd was very emotional and cried a lot - she thought it was hormones. But my dd has put up with a lot of petty behaviour and this seems totally unfair.
Sorry for any typos - Friday night tipple.