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To wish people would stop moaning about FB on MN.

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usualsuspect333 · 23/01/2015 20:42

If FB annoys you so much then may I suggest you only add people you like or learn how to use hide and unfriend.

Or at least use the FB topic on here so I can hide all the whining threads in one go.

Thank you.

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kellywellykingkong · 23/01/2015 21:41

There was a big fb thread earlier today.

It got me thinking (while I was standing at the checkout in Asda) I have never, ever spent any time wondering what somebody thinks of me (I guess very rare occasions such as job interviews aside - when you know you are being scrutinised/assessed).

I started to imagine what it must feel like to live your life being the kind of person who worries about what everybody they meet thinks of them. It felt really claustrophobic and horrible Sad

Then I got back in the car, ate an entire bag of dolly mixtures and all was good.

Somewhere in that there's some kind of attempt at empathising with people who are scared of the exposing nature of fb..but I can't be arsed to explain it properly.

Sparklingbrook · 23/01/2015 21:45

Aww thanks usual Smile

There is a little bit of me that thinks if i have FB and posted stuff and nobody gave a toss or liked it or anything I would feel rejected.
Or if they did look they would be scrutinising the pictures just a bit too much.

Hard to explain. While I can see that for loads of people it works very well and is brilliant. I feel it wouldn't be good for me personally.

BreakfastAtStephanies · 23/01/2015 21:48

Sparkling - ?? brill pic ! thanks. Like you I am wary of FB for same reasons as you. Worried about unwanted attention/ over-sensitivity on my part, etc. so probably more hassle than it's worth

DuelingFanjo · 23/01/2015 21:49

You see, I always thought it was a bit odd not to worry about what people think. Those people who post memes on FB saying ' I don't care what you think of me - I am what I am so tough shit if you don't like me'... I often wonder if they are just not very nice people who don't give a fuck?

Sparklingbrook · 23/01/2015 21:50

YY Breakfast. It would keep me awake at night worrying nobody liked my holiday picture.

kellywellykingkong · 23/01/2015 21:54

What's to worry about dueling?

I try my best to be nice to people, and if I fuck up I apologise. It's got nothing to do with not giving a fuck about other people, I just don't sit there thinking "oh, I wonder what that person thinks of me" Why would I?

I find the idea that you'd spend a lot of time wondering what other people think of you quite egotistical. Most people don't waste any time thinking about other people - they're busy doing their own thing.

I'm not sure why you've conflated "not caring what people think of me" with "not caring what people think". I like people Smile I am interested in what they think, I just don't care what they think about me - people who I don't hit it off with, I just avoid, they aren't obliged to like me, it doesn't bother me .

Samcro · 23/01/2015 21:54

YANBU
now op. get me on fb

kellywellykingkong · 23/01/2015 21:56

Case in point - there's a girl at work who I can tell doesn't like me. I don't care why, I don't like her either. Us not liking each other is a convenience, not something I spend any amount of time thinking about.

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usualsuspect333 · 23/01/2015 21:59

If you don't like me on Fb, then I don't give a fuck if you unfriend me

I've long passed the stage where I try to get people to like me.

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kellywellykingkong · 23/01/2015 22:03

YY usual - totally agree, they're not obliged to be there.

' I don't care what you think of me - I am what I am so tough shit if you don't like me'...

Very much gives the impression that that person does care, though, IMO. Because if they've posted that they obviously have been thinking about what they think of them.

Samcro · 23/01/2015 22:07

i am so sad
op does not want to be my fb freind
I am now going to start a thread.....Sad

Lweji · 23/01/2015 22:12

Do you have a special stalking account?

Was that for me?

I have one for people from another (now gone) forum, one for rl and another for the kick ass krav maga me (so that exH wouldn't get a whiff of).
Sadly, haven't thought about stalking. I feel another account coming.

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usualsuspect333 · 23/01/2015 22:23

pm me samcro

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Blueblueblueblue · 23/01/2015 22:45

Duelling I'm extremely nice (modest too!) and I've never been that bother what other people think about me.

I so try to take on board constructive criticism (none of us are perfect) but I've never expected that everyone will like me or felt like it's my job to make them.

I get on well with my family, friends and work colleagues despite that.

DuelingFanjo · 23/01/2015 23:06

I guess I mean the people who particularly spend a lot of time passively aggressively telling their facebook friends that they don't care what people think of them and they only want people to accept them for 'who I am'. If you don't care don't go on about it.

I had one person on my FB who did it all the time, mostly when she'd done something really awful but would never admit it.

But we're not supposed to be moaning about FB Wink

Blueblueblueblue · 23/01/2015 23:10

Ah yes Duelling but then those kind of people do tend to be obnoxious Grin

kellywellykingkong · 23/01/2015 23:25

ah yes that's a fair comment dueling. I definitely think those people very much do care, otherwise they wouldn't be harping on about it.

just to reiterate, I do care about other people's feelings, in other words I try my very best not to hurt people's feelings.

but I'm really very ok with the fact that not everyone will like me - I know I'm not everyones cup of tea and I don't try to be, or even feel like I should try to be.

kellywellykingkong · 23/01/2015 23:26

that doesn't mean I'll take any old shit though- people are free to dislike me but I expect them to be polite about it!

Cocolepew · 23/01/2015 23:32

I love it. The majority of my friends are normal. I have things like buzzfeed, huffpost and Blondie van club type of stuff on it. That makes up most of my news feed.

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usualsuspect333 · 23/01/2015 23:38

The Poke makes up most of my news feed.

Makes me laugh every day.

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Lweji · 24/01/2015 08:02

most of the people I'm friends with are also normal.
I have hidden updates from the annoying ones (stuff I'm not interested in).

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