To ask for advice

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I'm getting married early next year and am in 2 minds about whether or not I should invite my sister's partner who has been physically abusive? Police have been involved and the whole family knows about it. They live together and are going for counselling and "trying to move on".

If I don't invite him do I run the risk of pushing my sister away? If I invite him am I saying I agree with their relationship? I'm so confused!

Thanks for the reply. Yes, my instinct was to grin and bear it for the sake of my sister

Can you talk to your sister about it?

Inviting him is not a comment on their relationship.

You, quite rightly don't approve, but really its none of your business. Your sister has decided to stay with him and go to counselling. No matter how bad a choice that is, you need to support her in it until she asks you to do otherwise.

What an arsehole. I would HATE to have to invite someone like that to my wedding. A friend had the same dilemma with her sister and in the end did invite her abusive partner to keep harmony - for her. But she hated it. Luckily they broke up. I think you have to ask him, as long as she wants him there. :(

Thanks everyone. Yes he is an arsehole. I think we'll have to invite him for sister's sake and pray that they break up soon