by walking out of hospital?

[TheCatsFlaps]

Hellish pain from a small kidney stone, worse than child birth. Admitted to hosp twice. First occadion saw a lovely consultant who was empathetic and explaind everything. Got home and two weeks later was back with a vegenece. It truly is agony.

Saw my consultant late afternoon. We'll do a CT tomortow and send you off for some extracorporal shockwave lithotripsy. Next morning, this shitty hospital feeds vulerable patients in the corridor. A new doctor - a registrar stood next to this man and discussed my case in detail. He xame in to see me znd said it "may be a kidney stone" and I "might get a scan today". Stood talking to a newly qualified and said whether you act depends upon "who your patient is and whst dort of doctor you are". Catsflaps can take strong painkillers, so why waist our time? I packed up my overnight bag and left immediately. No one said where are you hoing, because not a single member of staff would look at me. I was so tired as a dementia patient had been admittdd snd shouted "hello, helloooo" all night. At first I though his disease must be affecting his cognition, til he snarled at one of the nurses and told her to FUCK OFF YOU DYKE CUNT!!!

That morning a trained nurse snapped at md to get in my chair to get my breakfast. I asked if I could have shower first as I had been sweating through the night. She huffed an alright at me. Did I get snh breakfast, did I fuck.

A registrar overruling a consultant? Discussing confidentisl information in a corridor right next to znother patient? Saying I may have a kidney stone when the fucking ct showed it, or it might be somethinb sinister? Keeping me in for 24 hrs on the now weak promise of a scan and given paracetamol tablets I csn take at home. WIBU in walking out?

Perhaps you could have pointed out to the registrar thst the consultant had already agreed to a scan?

I agree that ywbu about the dementia patient, clearly his condition caused him to say that. And about the shower, the nurses & hcas are short staffed enough as it is without people disrupting the routine.

Walking out effectively means you have wasted an NHS bed for one night. Someone grateful could have used it. You're back to square one now, you'll just have to go through the whole rigmarole again, next time the kidney stone flares up.

paxecum i think they should run after people that walk out of hospital. they do in holby and casulty

having said that i have met some very rude nurses in hospital. there is no way i would ever stay/go hospital unless my life depended on it and i was in sever pain.

but i would not have moaned about breakfast if hungry eat then shower takes 5 mins to eat breakfast...

and i would not have said anything about the elderly man either. for the same reasons others have said on here.

I think when we have a moan about things that are not reasonable... it weakens the issue about what we really are upset/offended by.

YABU

When the pain strikes again you will expect to be taken back in, given a bed and a scan and the treatment you will have had if you had stayed. You've just wasted everyone's time and a lot of money by walking out.

My nan had dementia, it was horrible, she couldn't help what she was saying. The person sat shouting looked like my nan, but it wasn't my nan. Your comments about the patient with dementia are completely out of order.

Breakfast time is breakfast time in an NHS hopsital, you can't ask them to hold it up because you want a shower first. The fact you didn't get breakfast was your own fault.

YANBU in walking out but you've done yourself no favours. How can they offer you any care if you strop off in a huff?

Feeding patients in corridors = probably no beds available. People still need to bed fed even if they're on a temporary trolley.

Kept awake by other patients = par for the course in hospital unfortunately.

Expecting breakfast in your own time = unreasonable. The trolley comes, breakfast is served, the trolley is removed, then staff have a million other things to do. If you want room service go to Bupa.

I appreciate you're tired, in pain and there seemed to be a lack of consistency in care and communication (which is Not Good) but by walking out you've totally removed the potential for being treated as you should have been.

Oh and made the staff's job more difficult - disappearing patients are a right ballache, you don't know if they've gone home or just for a wander. Or if you're safe, collapsed in a bathroom somewhere, done a runner under the influence of medication. You could at least have told someone you're going.

It's a hospital not a b&b. you sound unbelieveBly precious and rude and I completely understand why the staff were fed up with you.

You don't always get scans when they say as emergencies take priority. And of course your treatment will depend on you, they'd treat you differently to a 6 year old.

Clearly not in hellish pain if you were able and willing to walk out of hospital.

Yes YABU to walk out if you want to receive treatment.
More appropriate to question at the time why the registrar had a different plan to the consultant.

Dementia is a terrible disease and although I can understand your frustration about being kept awake, imagine how sacred that patient must have been

I don't understand why you wouldn't address the issues at the time instead of leaving and complaining on an Internet forum.

It sounds like you had a tough time, being in hospital is physically gruelling at time when you already feel awful.
However, by removing yourself, you have made it a more difficult and slower process to get the treatment you need. You may have had momentary satisfaction from your flounce, but ultimately it is only hurting you.

What everyone else said, basically!

I have a condition causing chronic pain which can have vicious flare ups, so from my perspective, the fact you could pack up a bag and walk out of hospital unaided makes me think YABU, you clearly can't have been in agony.

Agree you have cut your own nose to spite your face. What will you do next time you have an attack?

If you want your own room without anyone else and meals at your own time, give BUPA a call.

It's a hospital, not a hotel.

YABVU unreasonable about the dementia patient (and I say this as someone who works with dementia patients). His cognition was affected that's why he's lost his 'appropriate speech filter' and it's fairly common for patients with dementia to get aggressive and have no sense of day and night. It's part of the illness sadly.

I can sympathise that you're in pain and frustrated but it did sound like you treated the hospital a bit like a B&B. As for severe pain, on the occasions in my life when I've been in severe pain (burst disc in my back, childbirth) the last thing I would have managed was to write a mumsnet post let alone go for a shower or contemplate walking out so wonder if you are exaggerating a tad (that's not to say you're not in pain). Sorry. Hope you get better soon.

YANBU about some aspects (the dementia patient & breakfast points aside) BUT do you realise that hospitals can actually refuse to treat you for the same problem again if you self-discharge?

This happened to a colleague's son last weekend - they had been at hospital for so long with so little seemingly happening that they decided to leave. The nurse on duty advised that should he decide to come back again with the same problem they would be under no obligation to treat him as he had chosen to self-discharge (18 year old, not a child). Colleague took to FB ranting about this & saying what a load of bollocks that was, they can't refuse to treat people etc. etc. - until a Staff Nurse friend told her it was actually technically true & copied the bit of the self-discharge form which says so.