DB assaulted me AIBU to expect DM to support me and take my side?

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I'm pretty upset at the moment so please excuse this if it doesn't make much sense at time.

I've posted previously about my strained relationship with my parents steming from my childhood especially DM and about the fact I've had to go almost NC with her.

I'm in the last few weeks of my first pregnancy and have had an extremely difficult time with poor health Which had gotten worse recently to the point I'm suffering from fainting frequently.

DH had to go on a business trip yesterday last minute for a few days and didn't want me to be at home alone so reluctantly I asked DM if I could stay in her spare room and she agreed. My DB lives there and we don't get on so I just pretend he isn't there.

This afternoon I went to the bathroom as I was going in he came bounding out his room and pushed me out of the way to get in the bathroom first. I instinctively push him back to which he turned around and headbutted me. I started screaming and trying to stem the blood coming from my nose.

DM came upstairs and started shouting at me what had I done to him to get him to react like that and then started shouting in my face that I shouldn't have pushed him and he had a right to defend himself.

I told them I was calling the police at which point my DB ran out the door and while my mum was shouting at me that he had gone without a coat and it was cold and what sort of person calls the police on a family member.

I called 101 and two policemen came round. I was highly distressed at this point both my eyes are visibly black and my nose swollen. The police were imo unhelpful basically made out it was a domestic dispute and was my word against DB and they couldn't do anything and left.

After a load of abuse from DM about calling the police I called a friend to come collect me and went to hospital. Thankfully my nose isn't broken and baby is fine after being put on a monitor.

I've been dropped off home and DH is on his way back but won't be home for hours yet.

AIBU to think that my DM should have been more concerned and supportive of me rather than blame me and defend her golden boy? She hadn't been in contact at all to see how me or the baby are and in fact as I was leaving with my friend I heard her tell my friend I was "such a drama queen".

This has been the final straw for me and from today I will be NC with them all.

Agree about no contact.
I would also be getting back in touch with the police and possibly filing a complaint against them too. FFS a pregnant woman was assaulted what's wrong with them ?

I don't think the pp was saying that he hadn't head butted her, they were outlining the brother's story surely?
I wonder is he abusive to the mother too. I do hope this will be the final straw for you, OP. And hope you feel better soon.

Sorry, have re-read the post referred to and it is wrong.

If this was me I would now stop contact with them both. You don't need people like this in your life.

As Anti says, you don't need these people and the emotional and physical pain they are causing you.

Walk away and don't look back, your future is with your true family i.e. your husband and unborn child.

You should call the police again and say you are unhappy with how it was dealt with. You are a pregnant woman who has been assaulted and you want to press charges.

And go NC with the lot of them - they sound toxic and dangerous. You certainly wouldn't want your child around them would you?

Flipping heck. He headbutted a heavily pregnant woman, his own sister? And your mother is angry with you?

I think you have carte blanche to go no contact there. Don't second guess yourself..

You poor thing

Totally agree with everyone else. Go back to the police and definitely don't ever see the fuckers again

Another voice agreeing with NC, as far as I can see it is the only option, I am sad for you op

Jesus Christ OP I can't even begin to imagine what you must be going through! Your brother obviously has issues, that just isn't a normal reaction! And as for your mother...well she doesn't even deserve a second thought. Your brother doesn't exactly sound like the type to care for a parent into old age so perhaps when she's left alone she'll realise just what a horrible mistake she's made, but let's be honest she'll probably twist it so that's your fault as well.

I'd go NC. Her lack of concern and support is disgusting and I wouldn't want her having any part of my unborn child's life.

My step monster stuck up for my brother when he whacked a cushion into the sofa, with great force, right next to my 6 week old daughters head, it was the last straw and made me realise just how damaging the relationship was. I haven't spoken to her for nearly 14 years and I can't say I have ever regretted my decision.

You should go back to the police though and say you want them to presscharges.

About to play devils advocate here but is your mum scared of your brother? She lives with him don't forget. I think she has her own interests at the forefront of her mind rather than yours, or indeed your brothers.

It's sound absolutely awful, however a family member once punched me, made a disgusting mess of my arm and even left full finger marks on me. I was also told there was no point pressing charges as it was one word against the other.

Whatever you chose to do, please stay away from your family. It's an extreme step, but you need to protect you and your family.

Yes you really need to go back to the police this is disgusting.

Please go NC with DM. She isn't fit to be a grandparent with an attitude like that.

I echo what everybody has said, nc with the lot of them, and go to the Police again. That is awful .