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To try and plan a wedding for 1500 or under

55 replies

Themrmen · 20/01/2015 12:52

Seriously having trouble trying to organise a decent wedding that is still nice and keep the budget that low, anyone got tips, ideas, experience. Doesn't help I'm Surrey based which seems to be one if the more expensive areas.

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Dinnerfor1 · 20/01/2015 16:39

My wedding was fairly cheap, although a little over your budget. The expensive things were the church, the dress and the ceilidh band.

The things we did that kept it cheap were:

  • Hired a community centre for the party. It's in a lovely old village school building. It only cost £200 to hire for the whole weekend, so we had time to set up the day before and tidy away the day after.
  • We had afternoon tea for the sit down meal. We made it all ourselves. My mum baked all the cakes and we made the sandwiches in the morning.
  • A lady who worked for my dad offered to do all the serving of drinks and the tea etc for free. She had previous experience of working in hotels.
  • My husband and all the groomsmen wore their own suits. Luckily they all owned grey suits!
  • I borrowed the bridesmaid dresses from a friend.
  • The table decorations were flowers picked from my mums garden, put in either small vases or jam jars we already owned.
  • We had no photographer, but asked a couple of friends who were into photography to take photos for us.
  • For the evening buffet we got a local italian restaurant to deliver pizza, and got a really good deal.

It was the most fun wedding I've been to, if I do say so myself!

Dinnerfor1 · 20/01/2015 16:40

Oh and my grandma bought the wedding cake as our wedding present.

Jackieharris · 20/01/2015 16:48

Get freebies!

Have a cake of cheeses rather than cake.
Oxfam dress & suit.
Snack buffet.
1 glass cheap fizz per person and pay bar.
Secondhand rings
Own transport
Facebook invites
No flowers other than bouquet- don't mention the 'w' word
Diy photos
iPod music

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Minions · 20/01/2015 17:09

My friend found a bridesmaid dress she liked and just ordered it in white. I think it cost about £100 and looked lovely. Congrats on your forthcoming celebration, have a great day :)

TedAndLola · 20/01/2015 17:33

Mine ended up about £500. We were young and broke and just wanted to be married, not have a wedding, if that makes sense.

I didn't wear a dress but got my outfit for about £50. Husband's was similar.
Registry office fee, I can't remember what it was - £100ish?
Didn't send out invites. I wanted to but the company screwed up, but I think it would only have been about £50 anyway, through a website.
I went to the hairdresser in the morning- £40 - and did my own makeup.
Reception - at our new flat. A friend catered and we gave them £100.
My brother's girlfriend took photos. We hadn't asked her, it hadn't even occurred to me, but she wanted to. She isn't a photographer but we got some really lovely pictures Smile.

We only had 11 guests, and they were our closest family so we didn't feel the need to put on a show or worry about what they thought of us. And they all gave us cash instead of gifts (we didn't ask, their choice!) so I think we actually made a profit :p

Szeli · 20/01/2015 18:55

I'm in the middle of this atm. Got 'engaged' 8th Jan and getting married 1st April.

So far we've;

Booked reg office (Ours only holds 40) - £220
Meal on a lunch deal at a gastropub

  • £6.75pp for 2 courses
Memorial institute eve (holds 150)
  • £95
Rings: mine etsy&ebay, his warren james, all in jan sales
  • £150 (for 4)
My dress will be an ebay special
  • £85
His suit an etsy number
  • £150
Teabag favours
  • 20p pp
Making flowers out of music sheets and old mags
  • £?? but cheap
Decor from poundland and the works sale Made my ringbearers box
  • £1 from the works plus some burlap and padding to buy.
Got the 'hitched' app for friends to upload photos on the day straight to us

Friends are responsible for;

makeup
photography
cakes
invites
decor

As gifts

florascotia · 20/01/2015 19:00

Just to second what others have said about jewellery. Antique/vintage rings often very good quality and less than half the price of equivalent new.

Congratulations and best of luck. We also got married quietly - neither of us likes fuss. Even so, it was still magical.

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 20/01/2015 19:11

Of course its doable - I hope this idea catches on. Weddings have become ridiculously expensive affairs in the last decade or so.

What are these favours people keep mentioning (I was married pre-favours). I would definitely ditch those first of all. Completely unnecessary.

The best wedding photos we had were those a friend took for us and gave as an "unofficial album" (his pressie). They were far better than the officical photographers for which we paid a lot even for 1987.

JugglingFromHereToThere · 20/01/2015 19:20

I would get married in the early afternoon in summer when the sun is shining and flowers blossoming, probably in a lovely old church like Chaldon church (great old frescoe of heaven and hell for entertainment - I reckon churches are good value for money personally) or a classy registry office, then afternoon tea maybe with scones and cake (tea is cheaper, less boozy, and classier and more classic than other options.) Friends of ours bought lovely old tea set crockery from charity shops and asked some people to bring cakes as presents. They had a post wedding party in their garden which was lovely
Enjoy! Have a great day! And yes, ask people to help they'll love it Smile I asked a couple of friends to take photos and video's at our wedding and they did a great job!

DilysDerwent · 20/01/2015 19:25

Things I did on the cheap:
Invites - made own for about £10 (just sticking bits together - no particular talents in that area)
One foil wrapped chocolate per plate for favours
Glass bowl from Ikea with glass beads, water and floating candles for table centrepiece - about £4 per table
Got a talented friend to do photography for expenses only then made photobook online - places like Photobox, Bonusprint etc are always having sales
Entertainment from a friend's band and an iPod
Plain white cake from supermarket

JustWantToBeDorisAgain · 20/01/2015 19:32

Church hall for location and hire in a caterer, and get help to decorate.

Buy in alcohol and run an honesty bar

Buy dress / suits ebay or charity shops.

Get married late afternoon only on meal

hamptoncourt · 20/01/2015 19:33

Mine cost £750.

In home counties.

Registry office, family paid for my bouquet and the buttonholes as a wedding present. Got my dress, proper wedding dress for £75 in closing down sale of bridal shop. The shoes cost £15 in same sale.

SIL made the cake as a wedding present.

BIL made a video as a wedding present.

Bought a pad of wedding invitations from WH Smith I think it was.

Reception in private room of local upmarket bar for free, paid £12 per head for buffet.

DH friend did DJing as wedding present

DH rented suit from Moss Bros.

I can't understand why people spend tens of thousands on weddings. I would rather spend money on holidays Grin

JugglingFromHereToThere · 20/01/2015 19:35

You could make a plain cake look extra pretty with some flowers - I always think that looks lovely
Anyone you know got an interesting or open top car?

TheRealAmandaClarke · 20/01/2015 19:45

Totally do able IMO.
Lots of good ideas here.
You have your budget. What's important to you about the actual day?

Laska42 · 20/01/2015 19:59

yo dont actually need rings you know (its not part of the legal wedding service , just custom) We didnt (and i've never felt any less married for not havin gone) ..

Ours.. we did out own food and got lots of campagne and wine (waitrose , oddbins) anda selction of posh small cakes as a wedding cake from french patisserie place around £350

I got my dress from ebay for £75 (it was lovely blue silk) , registry office and everyone back to ours for party inthe garden.. luckily it was hot and sunny, we drove ourselves (Dad took me!)

Only about 15 guests though..

However.. when DH came downstairs dressed ready .. Guess what? .. he'd only gone and bought a bleedin' Paul Smith suit! (so bang went our budget, I had to forgive him of course and he still can get into it 10 years on,,)

( now thats outed me maybe.. )

ExpectTheVeryUnexpected · 20/01/2015 20:59

Planning my wedding at the moment and our budget is 2000. We've paid 300 for registry office and giving notice, found a lovely local pub which is free to hire for the day and buffet is only £7 a head (we have around 100 guests coming). Groom suit and best man suit £75 each from Marks and Spencer. Rings £40 each in a fabulous January sale. Dj is an old colleague doing us a deal at £100. Bridesmaids dress found in a local shop for £30 each but they look alot more expensive. Their flowers are from dunelm mill £5 per bouquet. Our invites are from home bargains £1 a pack. We've ordered organza to dress tables from eBay £3 per 26 meters and we've also ordered some little scatter diamonds and fake flower petals for the tables paid £5 for enough to do all our tables. We're making our own centerpieces using old bottles that were going to paint and fill with lavender bunches. We got a fab deal on our cake as a talented friend is making it for us for just ingredients cost and using that as the buffet dessert. We've got some lovely little fake rose tree things from home bargains for £10 each too to put at the entrance of the pub and wrap with ribbon etc. To mark the entrance. Dress second hand from charity shop is great condition for £70. Making homemade fudge for table favours. Can't wait.

lomega · 20/01/2015 21:43

Hire a village hall for the day/evening and cater yourself. Sainsbury's do free glass hire where you only pay £1 per glass if one gets broken. See if a local band or a DJ that's just starting out will do the music.

There are lots of short cuts and I do think it's possible to do this on your budget. But bear in mind the ceremony/registry of the marriage will cost you about £600 or so if you have a registry-office do.

My dress cost £300 new because it was meant to be a ball gown/prom dress, it's like people see the word 'wedding' and then add £1k to the price tag on stuff. Don't bother with "wedding shoes," just get a cheaper pair that are 'normal' and they'll probably be half the cost.

For the cake does anyone in your family make them? Could they do one for you as the wedding present?

FaithLoveandGrace · 20/01/2015 23:12

Just tried replying and lost it! I'm on my phone atm so will post properly tomorrow. I definitely don't think you're being unreasonable and DP and I are getting married at the end of the year for less than £1500 :)

JugglingFromHereToThere · 21/01/2015 07:13

All sounds very exciting Unexpected. Enjoy!

Ragwort · 21/01/2015 07:17

Totally doable and I love so many of the ideas on here. My wedding was a long time ago but was a lovely day, but not much money was spent.

Vintage/second hand wedding dresses are easily available but has anyone mentioned the Oxfam bridal hire service? Available at 6-7 Oxfam shops around the country. Have a look at it on line. -I helped set it up many, many years ago

JugglingFromHereToThere · 21/01/2015 07:34

Oh, what a nice thing to have been involved in Ragwort Smile
Just came back on to say that I think a good tip would be to think old style and simple charm
When my granny got married in 20s/30s it was in the local church and back across the road afterwards for a garden tea party in the back garden (was a nice garden mind you)
The wedding industry has gone crazy making you think you need lots of things which you really don't. Like a PP said what things are important to you?
I also think being outside for a bit is nice if poss Thanks

RhiWrites · 21/01/2015 11:35

There are lots of books about planning a budget wedding. I was lent one but can't find it online. This one looks good though: amzn.to/1yHx2G7

notauniquename · 21/01/2015 12:10

we almost did it...
Registry office wedding: (~£100 with all the registration fees and petrol to get there etc).
Wedding dress (~£150)
(brides mum bought shoes as a present)
bouquet was made by wife.
Suit, shoes etc (~£100 from TK Max)
dinner in a pub where guests paid for themselves.
Decorations were all handmade, and plenty of cheap fairy lights etc. (call that ~£100.)
food at the reception was a buffet that we prepared before hand, and setup on the day. (~£150) (that's a vast amount of food!)
the venue for the reception was a town/village hall, that was £25 per hour. (4pm = 1am (£225)
a bar would have cost £250 to hire in the bar and staff, and we'd have then had to buy drinks. so we spent (rather too much) £600 on drinks, (including a cask of ale, lots of lager, cider, wine and spirits) and said to guests if they had special requirements then then should bring their own. (there was enough left over that we were able to give it to a friend to provide all the drinks for their wedding also. -so we could have spent less, also could have spent less buying cans rather than bottles, but thought everyone stood around drinking cans of beer didn't look as nice...
a bunch of musical friends put together a band and played for free. we used the bands PA system and mics to do speeches and to have a laptop with music.
we bought my ring from etsy, if costs about £10, for a carbide steel band, which whilst cheap, doesn't scratch easily (it's the same stuff they make saw blades out of). DW's ring came from a jeweller, and cost £100 but was paid for entirely with clubcard vouchers.

So with a lot (and I mean weeks) of making decorations, a couple of years planning, and buying things at the right time (like fairy lights for decorations after Christmas when they are on sale), plenty of browsing on ebay. and making a lot of stuff... our wedding cost £1800, given that the biggest portion of that was essentially just a free party for our friends. it should be reasonably simple to get everything coming in at less than £1.5 grand.

What I would say is, it was most of a year spent making at least some stuff, or planning, the best part of a week before hand spending all day cooking cakes, treats, and savoury items. On our wedding day we set-up the reception ourselves. and packed it away on the same night. because we couldn't afford the hall hire until the next night.

If I had to do it all again, I'd rather save the stress and pay someone to do it!

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