Kamikaze Facebookers - yes PIL - I'm talking to you!

[Moominmarvellous]

Another day, another dodgy comment from FIL about a (very generic) photo of me on FB - which I think is meant to be kind but actually comes across as quite creepy!

Both my in laws have a tendency to wade in on conversations I'm having with friends (often those they've never met) and to me it's obvious they've had a few gins but to others........oh it all gets very confusing.

I also have a friend who asks me awkward questions under photos or statuses which aren't actually necessary - last week she asked 'Do you actually like the parents at your kids school or do you just see them because you have to?' under a public status about a night out that wasn't even mine - I was just tagged in!

Gaaaaaah!

It's not in your gift to control what anyone else posts.

Just see yours are ok and normal and stop worrying.

Fb is mad anyway

I have a parent like this. I usually ignore and they look silly but occasionally I'll point out that everyone can see how rude they're being.

Just delete the comments

With the friend I acknowledged that the question was an awkward one!

But FIL is one of those where he will respond to everything anyone says in a bid to 'out wit' them. Now I think of it, he's exactly the same in real life!

I follow a strict No Family On Facebook policy.

Google Facebook lists and spend a little time setting this up. Short term pain but the long term gain is sooooo worth it.

Try this
mashable.com/2013/06/20/facebook-restricted-list/

Can people see that you've put them in a list? Eg, wankers corner list?

Why are you making everything you post visible to every one of your Facebook friends? Put these people in a list (e.g. Acquaintances) then when you post, set the privacy setting of the post to Custom: Friends except Acquaintances. You only have to do this once, then it will become the default setting and will happen automatically for every post, until you change it again.

2/3 of my Facebook friends are in my Acquaintances list, and 9/10 of my posts aren't visible to them.

Can people see that you've put them in a list?
No

I have an aunt who comments on and likes everything on a list of her own She drives me mad. A cousin I've never met almost ended up on the list but she stopped using FB. Waking up to ten new likes, three "inspirational messages" posted to my wall and a variety of comments on really random photos from years ago saying things like "I love you!" "You are sweet." "I love my family." every day was getting a bit weird.

Thankyou first.

Lists are unseen to others. I use a 'not kids' one to post things I don't want my children seeing. I have a 'not work' one too but rarely need to use it.

Lists are great, but beware of filtering your fil out of everything otherwise he'll smell a rat if you go from regular posts to none.

You can also set it so photos you're tagged in don't show until you approve them, and I think you can release them to only a list then too.

I'm unable to give an honest answer to this one without being accused of ageism.

I had to word the OP quite carefully for the same reason SaucyJack!

I will get organised as suggested - it's all the time now - FIL got an iPad for Christmas so he's really embracing the world of social media

I especially like the 'not kids' group as I've aquired a couple of friends children lately - sweet kids, I don't want to be responsible for that changing!

Yes to the 'inspirational messages' as well Pixie. FIL has also taken to posting Jerry Springer 'final thought' style statuses on the latest big news stories......

I had to delete a comment my mam made on my status about the sexual assault in the CBB house. My mam went to town on the poor girl, I was mortified and deleted her comment straight away hoping nobody saw it.