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to think people should take responsibility for their own stupidity?

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Blackout234 · 19/01/2015 21:09

2 cards were hand delivered at my house about an hour or so ago, with "Jane smith" (Fake name) on both. we live at number 57 street, this was addressed to 57 way, an honest mistake.
the street it was supposed to go to was on my way to the shop anyway so i decided to go there and ask for a jane smith (to make sure i had the right place) and then hand them over, i went to the house and knocked and got no answer so went to the shop and on my way home knocked again still no answer, i took a chance and posted the cards and went home... to find that a man had come looking for the cards and spoken to my younger sister who explained that i had gone out to deliver them, he left a number for me to call, i called him when i got home and was told rather rudely that if the cards didnt go to the right place i would cough up 40 quid as there was 20 quid in each card, AIBU to think people should take responsibility for their own stupidity? I did what I thought was the right thing as there was no return address, no stamp (so obviously hand delivered), AIBU if i refuse to cough up the money if the cards never arrive?

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Blackout234 · 19/01/2015 21:24

I'm still a bit O.o over the reaction of 40 quid going missing, its not chump change but seriously not the end of the world, this guy is like a dog with a bone which is very very odd to say the least, the guy has called again (Sister answered) to say he wants me to go up with him in his car and show me where i posted this letter, definitely very fishy, im not getting into a car with a man i dont know and now im getting a bit concerned there is more to it than a monetary scam, police is defo on the cards

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LaurieFairyCake · 19/01/2015 21:26

Obviously you're not going to get in a car with a stranger Hmm

That would make you an idiot. Just give them the address.

Passmethecrisps · 19/01/2015 21:26

Oh for heaven's sake. In his car? Flipping Nora.

1)Tell him to look at Google street view
2) block his number
3) call 101

yellowdinosauragain · 19/01/2015 21:27

Seriously ring them now.

And text him the address you took them to, which was the address on the cards he posted to you and tell him not to contact you again as this is bordering on harassment

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Blackout234 · 19/01/2015 21:27

I gave him the address I posted to which is also the address written on both letters/cards. What i dont understand is why you would write an address on a hand posted card? makes zero sense. if he calls again i'll be calling 101 as this is ridiculous

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PhaedraIsMyName · 19/01/2015 21:28

The other party may be in on it or may have no involvement at all. Either way there won't be £40 in those cards. He is counting on you being scared.
Call the police.

expatinscotland · 19/01/2015 21:31

'I'm still a bit O.o over the reaction of 40 quid going missing, its not chump change but seriously not the end of the world, this guy is like a dog with a bone which is very very odd to say the least, the guy has called again (Sister answered) to say he wants me to go up with him in his car and show me where i posted this letter, definitely very fishy, im not getting into a car with a man i dont know and now im getting a bit concerned there is more to it than a monetary scam, police is defo on the cards'

Oh, FFS! Ring the police now and tell him to go and FUCK HIMSELF with his FUCKING SCAM.

CitySnicker · 19/01/2015 21:32

Presume he is saying that he is the person that posted the cards. Has he said that they have not been delivered to the address you put them in to? How did he know they had been mistakenly delivered to your address?

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Blackout234 · 19/01/2015 21:35

CitySnicker, I called him and told him i had delivered the cards then he called his daughter (As they are allegedly his granddaughters cards) and his daughter said nothing had arrived, apparently.
He just rang again and i told him that he was harassing me and that i've done all i could and if he still wasn't satisfied the next thing i could do would be calling the police to have them settle it. He hung up on me then sent me a text telling me to have a good night and he was sorry for any inconvenience.... hmmm....

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CitySnicker · 19/01/2015 21:36

Ah. So he put them through your door! Why? If he was local to the intended recipient, why wouldn't he know where they lived exactly?
Don't be intimidated by him.
Ask him for his address so when YOU call the police, they know where he lives so they can come round and have a word with him after.

FightOrFlight · 19/01/2015 21:36

I'd still call the Police, explain what happened and give them his phone number to discuss the issue with him. Total scam and you won't be the first person he's tried this on.

LaurieFairyCake · 19/01/2015 21:37

Obviously still call 101 in the morning and make an incident report as this guy will be trying it on with others and they will need to build a picture of this scam

That's why he sent you the text, you weren't easy to intimidate so he's moving on to someone else and he wants to keep you on side to not report

magoria · 19/01/2015 21:37

I would bet it is related to your ex and your recent problems.

Phone the police and report it.

CitySnicker · 19/01/2015 21:37

So he doesn't know where his daughter lives?
"I smell sh*te!"
Well done you!

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Blackout234 · 19/01/2015 21:38

I will be in case its happening alot locally, will keep my eye out for him aswell in case i see him posting any more bloody cards on this street.

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laughingmyarseoff · 19/01/2015 21:39

Scam for sure. OP you need to call 101 and report it. He'll try it on with others and possibly get money from them if they are vulnerable. At least the Police can get his mobile number then.

PhaedraIsMyName · 19/01/2015 21:39

You have phoned haven't you? We're all going to keep posting until you do.

If you had still had the cards he would have opened them and accused you of taking the money. The person at the other address is probably fictitious.

SteptoeAndDaughter · 19/01/2015 21:40

Such a scam ... he doesn't know his own grandchild's house? He was just around the corner but put them through the letterboxof a house on the wrong street?

The getting inthe car bit has me worried. I would call the police.

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Blackout234 · 19/01/2015 21:40

CS apparently they have recently moved house but even so, why would you write an address on a hand delivered card?!

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sleepingdragon · 19/01/2015 21:41

Do you know your neighbours? It sounds like the sort of scam they will try to pull again (aren't many streets with similar names near each other, although i suppose it can work with any nearby address), so it might be a good idea to warn them about it? I hope you are feeling ok after all the phone calls

SteptoeAndDaughter · 19/01/2015 21:42

Why would you not knock on the door and say hi love while you were passing by? Confused

PhaedraIsMyName · 19/01/2015 21:44

Sorry OP it's a scam. As Laurie says he's failed to intimidate you so he's moved on to his next victim. He's counting on you not reporting it.

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Blackout234 · 19/01/2015 21:44

sleepingdragon, i plan to but i live next to elderly ladies so can't really do it at this hour.
steptoe what do you mean? i knocked on the house, twice, and got no answer, i figured it'd be easier to post them there and then, i didn't think this would happen (never even heard of it happening :S)

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Blackout234 · 19/01/2015 21:45

calling 101 now to get it logged

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TheyLearnedFromBrian · 19/01/2015 21:47

Scam - if hand delivering there wouldn't be an address - report it, give the police his number and the address - they will check it out.

He's replying on you not to report it!