Dress drama, who is BU?

[Topaz25]

Last November a woman gave me a dress on a local Facebook site, similar to Freecycle where people can give away their unwanted items. I picked it up on time. I thanked her for the dress and even posted a picture of me wearing it at a family party on Facebook and she said I looked lovely. Everything was fine. Then recently I received these messages on Facebook:

Her
My boyfriend was asking me about the red dress I gave you & he wants me to have it back as he got it me

Me
Ok
I sewed the front bit up because I'm self conscious about my stomach but you could probably change it back. Do you want to meet in town to get it?

Her
I liked it the way it was

I can't get in town most of the time as no money..

Me
I'll drop it off when I'm next in your area but not sure when that will be yet

Her
When will that be??

Her
I can make it to [local shopping centre] as that's close to me

The guy that gave me the dress I got back with & asked me about the dress

Me
I can meet at [local shopping centre] on Tuesday afternoon

Or could do friday, up to you

Her
will have to be before 3pm

Me
Ok would you prefer Friday or Tuesday?

Her
tursday i can do 2pm

Me
Ok see you then

Today
Me
Sorry I forgot I have an appointment at 2, can you meet a bit earlier like midday or 1pm?

Her
ARE YOU IN CAR??

Me
no I don't drive

Her
i really need it tomorrow

Me
can you meet at 1pm or 1.30pm?

Her
can you do 3ish?

AIBU to think she is BU a cheeky fucker for asking for a dress back that she gave me, complaining that I altered it after she gave it to me, expecting me to return it at my expense and then being so fussy about the time and place to meet up? What should I say?

So as not to drip feed, the only reason I'm putting up with this is I suspect her boyfriend is putting pressure on her but I'm getting sick of it now. I just started a new job with early starts and hardly know whether I'm coming or going, really don't need the stress of meeting up with her.

She keeps going on about how she needs it back for Tuesday because she's seeing her boyfriend then. I do feel sorry for her if she's scared of him

Definitely blocking her after this though. I swear she seemed normal before!

Good. I'd actually now tell her that I want to meet somewhere closer but I understand why that might be awkward...

please be careful when youmeet her. consider taking someone with you.

I tried suggesting meeting in the city centre before since it's about halfway between us and I'm there everyday for work anyway but apparently she can't afford it. I would never have answered her in the first place if I'd known she was going to be this awkward!

I've met her before and she was fine and we're meeting in a very public place. You have made me think though, I'm not worried about her but I hope her weird boyfriend who is so obsessed with this dress doesn't turn up! I'll probably take someone with me and definitely tell people where I'm going. This is turning into a nightmare!

She is def BU but sounds a bit needy and poss vulnerable.

Fuck this. Tell her the town centre where you actually work or you'll post it.

I'd also find it difficult not to say something asking the lines of 'next time you choose to give something away make sure you're actually finished with it. Because frankly this is taking the piss'

Hmm. Sounds a bit weird. Prepare yourself for her kicking off over you having altered the dress. be ready to say No, I won't replace it, I'm doing you a favour by returning it.

Oh I'd be VERY careful OP. It sounds a bit fishy to me this. Post it. And then block her. It could be a scam or something dodgy.

Don't give it back, tell her to fuck off then block her.

The cheek of her to ask for it back.

Please stop going out of your way for her. You may well find she's just being a pain rather then scared, if she was scared then she would have gone above and beyond to get it back from you-not messed around.

Just say that you will be in the town centre on X date for X time and if she wants it she can come and get it. If not you will redistribute.

Agree with everyone else. If you feel happy to meet the do so but then block her and if she doesn't turn up block her anyway.

Sounds dodgy. I'm guessing she might message you after getting the dress back to complain and suggest you pay to have it repaired or something along those lines. Just be careful!

Ooooo, I can totally see this turning into a Liftzilla Saga!

How weird? Please tell us how it goes. She sounds strange!

Topaz please do take someone with you or better still block her number and dump the dress.

Just block her ( and report her to the admin of the freecycle page). I can see her turning around and demanding money to repair/replace the dress.

I'm highly skeptical that there even is a boyfriend.

I wouldn't worry about a daytime meeting in a shopping centre tbh. Surely there'll be plenty of people around.

I'd suggest posting the dress and blocking her.

Another one here agreeing with block and ignore her. It's really not your problem. If she's got an arsey ex, she'll have to deal with him.

Tell her something has come up and you can't meet. Post the dress (get proof of postage) then block this crazy dress lady.

So what happened OP?

She sounds like a freak. I'd make your profile private, block her asap and post the dress. Don't meet this fruitcake anywhere. She might be a harmless nutjob, but you never know.