Cyberbully- AIBU to think that everyone aged 9/10 upwards should watch either at school or at home?

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I watched this on catchup yesterday and have posted on the Telly addicts thread.
First I am seriously contemplating letting my just 9 year old watch it. I watched it over the weekend. I thought it was v good and realistic.

I work in IT and some posters had mentioned that this wasnt realistic but the IT skills needed are actually not unrealistic. I work somewhere where keystrokes/ websites and white lists/recording video msgs and phone calls are common. Do i think it happens in someone's house, no not really ,but it is possible with an IP address many things are possible.

I know many people inside and out side of work who could do this, the fact that they wont shows that most people really wouldn't go to the time and cost to do this.

The thing I was annoyed about wasn't the story is that she kept only thinking that it would have to be the stereo typical 30+ bloke in him mums basement type person.

My DD has access to her own tablet and a couple of laptops. They are key stroke monitored and recorded and deleted every day unless she says something happened she isnt allowed to chat all her emails are copied to me. I monitor her youtube if you wants to post she needs to ask me.

WHY because some "creepy bloke* on Club Penguin on her first day asked her where she lived and if she was pretty? I closed the account as after complaining to them even though your not supposed to be able to chat without becoming friends they admitted they had a bug in there firewall.

sorry long but it is v important and the earlier the better. So AIBU to think that the earlier we do this with our children the better?

Also I'm so grateful that I'm too old not that i ever did anything dodgy at uni

Bit evangelical for me.
My 9yo would not have been mature enough to get net benefits from this programme (we could both do without her getting anxiety from it).
It sounds like a good programme & will encourage my teens to watch it.

I watched it too, it was quite freaky.

The thing I was annoyed about wasn't the story is that she kept only thinking that it would have to be the stereo typical 30+ bloke in him mums basement type person.

He kept correcting her though, even told her that he could be a she.

It's good to educate but I think at 9 it's best to just talk, they won't appreciate it so much that young unless really mature for their age.

I think the ending was good too, though I'd have like to know who he was but that's the point I guess,you never know on the net.

I do always keep my webcam covered anyway but at work and the gym people I chatted to about it have started to cover theirs.

9 is way, way too young, sorry. Talk to her. My mum never, ever monitored, she said if anything is said/done online that we don't like, he should trust us enough for us to come to her. Put it this way.
I was playing castle clash the other day with my DP. I set up my name (my real name on the server as it wouldn't let me have my fake name) and I got a message:

them show me your tits and butt?
me HAHAHAHAHAHAAH
them oh please?
^at this point I gave the phone to DP*
me/DP I am 12 you know (lie to get him to go away)
them oh errm, I'm 24 lol
me/dp So, you're a paedophile? want me to report/call police/share IP addresses?
them but aren't you 12 loooool
me/DP No, this is her partner, i'm 20, she's 19. We will report you if you continue
them so thats a no to seeing titties?

we then went on live support, told them he could be a possible child molester, and they muted him for good.

thats what kids need to be taught how to do - to report. This would be really embarrassing to tell a parent. obviously, we all know from a very young age, don't tell strangers where you live, if a child is doing that then what are the parents doing not teaching their children not to tell this to ANYONE? to be fair, a child is more likely to beg roomed by someone in their family. but nowadays that's decreasing. it's quite scary, but parents need to teach their kids to post sensible things instead of policnig every single thing a child deos. let your child post that minecraft video - but turn comments off, turn PMs off, don't police the youtube channels! they're age censored anyway!

kids need to be taught to not talk to strangers (this was ingrained in me, now i don't like speaking to anyone, the rule took a turn for the worst lol!) and if tehy don't like it, find it embarrassing what was said to them, they need to know how to report. if its really upset them they need to tell you. they need to know ift hey don't likes omething, turn the computer off, it's as simple as that.

and 10 is way too young.Do you have any children that age.The message to me was more 1) don't troll and 2) don't have pictures taken of you that you arte not happy to be seen by anyone living or as yet unborn until the end of time.

told them he could be a possible child molester, and they muted him for good

Until he sets up another IP address and re-registers

I don't have any children but know from experience. 10 is still in parimary school. to be honest, girls don't really start taking pictures (even if they ever do) till about 15/16 I know I didn't. Once one was spread around but i reported it and it was deleted. I was 16. Not 10.
they won't get the benefit of the film, just talk.
as choc said, don't troll others (in a mean way), and don't take pictures of yourself underage, this is illegal, and don't send them to anyone! simple!

I watched this too and thought it very good - though maybe a bit much for 9/10 year old.

But what I thought was a message equally important as the net safety one was emphasising the nature of bullying. The main character did not think of herself as a bully at first, she just thought she was doing what everyone did. By the end she was realising that she had in fact been responsible for bullying herself and had been made aware of the impact it had had.

I watched it I found it suffocating and intense I get where you are coming from but I think a 10 year old wouldn't really comprehend it properly and just see it as a scary thing that is happening to that poor girl and why is she taking tablets etc I do think older children should see it though 9yr old should never be unsupervised on the internet where as a 13yr old is trusted iyswim

What I took from it was the pictures also. Don't do naked pictures