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To think it's not normal to have no interest in sex

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IAmWeird · 19/01/2015 14:01

or even be attracted to anyone?

I am almost 26 years old and have never had sex. I am not that fussed about it and have never been interested in it. When I was younger this didn't bother me as I just thought I was a late bloomer and it would happen eventually but it never has. I honestly wouldn't care if I never had sex tbh.

I've also never been attracted to anyone either. I can see when someone is good looking but I've never been attracted to anyone in a sexual way before.

Thinking about it though, that's not normal is it? I'm starting to think there's something wrong with me.

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isseywithcats · 19/01/2015 14:05

some people are naturally asexual and most people are not normal is normal for you

cailindana · 19/01/2015 14:19

It's unusual, but that's not to say it isn't "normal."

It all depends on how you feel about it. If you're ok with never having a sexual relationship (and possibly therefore never having children) then there's nothing to worry about.

But if you feel you would rather have sexual relationship then maybe you need to get to figure out why you're not attracted to people. Is it because you're asexual (ie have no sexual feelings) or is it because there is something standing in the way of you expressing sexual feelings? Are you gay, and possibly looking for attraction in the wrong place?

CheeseandPickledOnion · 19/01/2015 14:22

Sounds like you are asexual.

Have a read up about it. :)

www.asexuality.org/home/

TedAndLola · 19/01/2015 14:24

There's nothing wrong with you. Flowers

I was the same until I met my husband and felt sexually attracted to someone for the first time. I was 20. But that honeymoon period passed pretty quickly, and after about six months I could take it or leave it. I would be perfectly happy if our relationship had intimacy but no sex. I don't know if it's just me or if it's also due to the contraception I use or the medicine I take for a chronic illness. But we're really not as unusual as you think and as long as you're happy, it's okay Smile

TrixAreForKids · 20/01/2015 11:45

it's not abnormal, no. there are a lot of people who don't have that hormone. however, seeing as it is a primal instinct to procreate (or in the case of homosexuality, to have sex), nature put it there. but nature also said "this person doesn't need it" so didn't give you it, simple Grin
i couldn't imagine no sex. I want to pounce on DP all the time. I couldn't imagine feeling no sexual attraction towards my DP.

LaurieFairyCake · 20/01/2015 11:49

It's abnormal in the medical sense of the word if you have no psychological reason for it. You could get checked out medically?

If you have a normal sexual drive (as in you masturbate to orgasm) but you don't want sex with other humans that would likely mean there's nothing medically wrong with you Smile

TrixAreForKids · 20/01/2015 12:34

I think thats what I was getting at laurie.

StarShank · 20/01/2015 13:49

What CheeaeandPickledOnion said.

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