AIBU to think that the mum here, however ridiculous, had a point?

[ArcheryAnnie]

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-cornwall-30876360

Long story short: dad accepts invite for his son to attend v expensive birthday party, realises son is double-booked, doesn't bother to send apols to birthday party.

Mother of birthday child sends invoice for charges to dad for the cost of the birthday party ticket.

Obviously, she's being ridiculous - but so is he, with his sadface photo and his victim air. He was being rude, and if he had the contact details to accept the invite, he had the contact details to send apologies.

(I think Invoice-Sending-Mum probably just snapped!)

This has been done on mn twice I think.

It is rude and should've sent apologies in advance. Not sure about invoice though!

Sorry - I did look (in active and AIBU) for other threads first!

I hope she is suitably mortified. She actually made her own invoice FFS.

I will add that Plymouth Dry Ski slope do do an awesome birthday party. Well worth the money.

In fact now that I think about it, one of the mum's who invited my DS to a party there was particularly snippy about the rsvp's.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2285566-Invoice-sent-home-in-book-bag-for-no-show-to-party

I think if it was your 5yo's party, you'd be less tolerant of non-explained no-shows. Especially if it was a small treat-type party, where the absence of one person would be really noticed.

The father should have been in touch as soon as he realised the double-booking. Then another child could have been invited.

(Yes, it's rude to actually send the invoice, but I wonder how many of us silently cheer the sentiment?)

Its one thing to just not turn up to a birthday tea party which is done at home but its another not to turn up to something like dry skiing where it would be seriously annoying to have to pay for someone else's child who doesn't even come!! I'd be pretty pissed off.

Would have been fine if they had actually told the mother they would't be coming so either another child could come or they could save the money. I think the invoice was pretty inspired!!

I like her style! There are too many rude people who just accept invitations to events they have no intention of attending or who accept and then decide they have a better offer and fail to turn up. These rude folk think only of themselves and do not let the hosts know they cannot make it.

I cannot understand why some people feel they have to accept rather than decline if they just don't want to go?

I second the recommendation , Plymouth Dry Ski Slopes do a great party.

I'm with Invoice Mum. This has happened to me and it's bloody annoying.

I think the invoice was a great idea. It's a way of hitting home to these selfish people that it's not okay to simply not turn up to a party without good reason.

But actually expecting payment, and pursuing it all the way to court, is way too much for £15.

If he had lost the invite, why didn't he contact the venue and explain? Perhaps they could have taken the child's name off the list and inform the mother.