To get irritated when a person talks about someone and acts like I don't know them?

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Not the best title, but for example -

I got a group email the other day from a friend about a mutual friends hen do. She mentioned the brides mother and wrote Anne (b2b's mother). Every single person knows exactly who Anne is, we have all known the bride years and have met her mother countless times.

Another friend mentioned she had this friend Lauren who was travelling and she would be visiting. Right .... The same Lauren I've known for 8 years, get invited to her birthday and have numerous mutual friends. Yeah think I might know who she is.

Aibu to find it irritating?

And sorry, I meant to say that the stuff in the OP is stuff I might do inadvertently. I know groups of people from different stages of my life, in different parts of the country, but due to a sport in common, the groups do sometimes overlap, so I can't always remember off the top of my head who knows who, and I sometimes forget that I knew someone back at university because I associate them with more recent times, if that makes sense.

I don't think you need to take offence, I think they may have a type of learning difficulty around working memory. Some can't remember faces, others names, others struggle with connections. Try not to take it as a personal dig.

MrsTawdry yes I know what you mean about seeing people out of context. I remember once I was meeting someone outside the cinema for a first date, I was used to seeing him at a regular group we both attended. Was terrified I wouldn't recognise him. I kept repeating like a mantra 'He has brown spikey hair. He has brown spikey hair. '

I'm the same with not recognising people out of context.

I used to work in our village shop and would forever get people waving or stopping for a chat when I was out and about. Never had any clue who they were until the next time they came in the shop

I once walked past my mum in the street, I wasn't expecting to see her so I just didn't recognise her.

I've managed to offend quite a lot of people over the years, and have to keep explaining myself. Even then I'm sure most people think I'm talking nonsense

I have a shocking memory all round really. I live my life with the aid of diaries, post it notes and phone reminders. I wouldn't have a clue who knew who in various friendship groups

sugarman I think the type of thing being discussed here is very different. I have a particular friend who does this, who once corrected the name I used for someone in conversation (think Tim/Timothy) of a person she had recently met, who I already knew.

It is quite a deliberate attempt to patronise and be dismissive of a person's previous relationship with someone else. It is very bitchy imo.

The OP talks about people who I would assume are doing it deliberatly. And if they are doing it accidently due to an extremley severe case of prosopagnosia then they ought to apologise. I am terrible with names and it is generally the case that when I cock up with names people tend to get quite pissed off and expect an apology. Why not with this?

Unless someone actually points it out to me that Ive cocked up/know someone/etc I won't actually know (and so couldnt apologise!!)

I'd probably say "oh of course you know xyz" if they point it out! Its incredibly embarrasing not recognising people and a real difficult condition to live with. Sorry it would piss you off so much, I'm glad Im not your friend.

Oh misread, sorry- you said others get pissed off!

I tend to tell a lot of people I struggle with face recognition/names now to kind of avoid the upset. I haven't had anyone be pissed off with me directly yet... when I genuinely don't recognise another school mum/have to ask them who x is they tend to be surprised how bad it is but do accept it.

Probably slightly miffed, and possibly pissed off but as I wont have recognised them then I wouldn't know!!

I have a terrible memory, it's a combination of epilepsy and the tablets that I take for it. I just find it frustrating what I can't remember and find matching faces to names very hard

My friend once introduced himself to someone with the line "I don't think we've met". Bloke stared at him for a minute and said "you drove me to Alton Towers last year, we spent 10 hours together in your car". Still makes us all laugh!