To struggle with "positive" after several years of crap?

[CallMeExhausted]

Without going into ridiculous detail and making this a novel, the last several years have been exceptionally trying for my family. Despite this, we have managed to stay together.

The last couple of weeks have been overwhelmingly positive. Seriously - school, things in general, and to top it off, DH has been essentially offered a MASSIVE promotion almost out of the blue. There is one last formality to overcome tomorrow and it is his.

After the last several years, however, I struggle to feel positive about this new development because I am just waiting for it to be taken away.

Is there any way for me to reduce the anxiety and celebrate that 2015 might finally be our year?

Hi OP. I've got a friend like this. Went through a really hard few years and then when things got better really struggled to let go of the negativity. I think she had forgotten what it was like to not be frantic with worry all the time, and still tends towards negativity now even though she has had a lot of amazing things happen.

Just take it one day at a time. It takes a while after things improve to get over what came before, I think. Be kind to yourself - you said it's only been a couple of weeks! Might I suggest making a list each morning of things to feel good about? Sounds a bit hokey but it might help start each day in a positive light.

Aw 'callMe' i know what you mean by 'waiting for it to be taken away'.

I don't have any answers but ijust wanted to say that i wish you that it will be a good year:-).

I remember your name, i think i remember a fab and moving photo you have posted the other day (am i right or mixed you with someone else?) and your family deserves a good year.

Me to. Waiting for it to all go belly up again myself. Not sure im strong enough to do it again. In fact i know im not strong enough. Yanbu. Ill keep my fingers crossed for you xxx