To ask your opinion on childcare

[tak1ngchances]

I have a four-month old DD and am on maternity leave now. We're going to get a nanny part time for the moment and full-time when I go back to work in Sept.
We have two options, both v experienced nannies who I got on with and had a good rapport with the baby (I interviewed others who were no suitable too!)

Option A
Live-in nanny who will do 4 afternoons a week for now (she has a morning job elsewhere) and full-time come Sept.
Very experienced, she is Asian and also said she would cook an evening meal for the family.

Option B
Live-out nanny who will do two full days a week for now and full-time from Sept.
She is also extremely experienced both as a nanny and maternity nurse, Eastern European and quite strict.

So as not to drip-feed, we have a self-contained flat that the nanny can live in.
There is not much price differential between the two.
DH and I cannot agree so I said I'd ask the collective mumsnet opinion!

Both sound good, but if I had the flat and the option of a meal ready when I got home I would go for option A. You will not have problems with her being late for work, public transport etc. Also you will probably get more of a commitment as you are providing her flat too.

i think probably live in nanny .but why are you farmimg off baby when you are still on maternity leave .until september poor little sod .

As QTpie says, perhaps ask both to come in for a trial morning (if they are both not currently working full time). You'll get a much better feel that way.

If neither feels quite right, don't be afraid to look further, you have got time. If you can, it might be better to wait till your baby is 6 months as you'll have a better idea of the baby's personality and what sort of person would suit best (for example, it was clear by 6 months that my dd loved going out and about and needed little sleep/lots of activity - so that influenced my choice of nanny towards someone who liked going out a lot and seemed energetic! - but that wouldn't have been clear at 4 months).

I'd go for A, would be lovely to come home to a home cooked meal for you after being at work, the B option, being strict doesnt cut it with me, I'd rather have someone nurturing for my baby...

Thanks QT those are pretty much my reasons!

We are going for nanny A on a trial basis (two months).

What happens to the flat if a Nanny's not living in it? Would you get a rental income from it and that's the reason there's no difference in cost to you? Otherwise the live in nanny should be much cheaper.

I would love the evening meal....

I think if you are able financially, getting to see the Nanny at work before you have to leave baby in her sole care is a great idea.

Op maybe try posting in childcare rather than aibu for some more considered responses next time.

Good luck with your nanny.

april seriously? Why shouldn't she have some time to herself if she can afford it. Also, like QT says, it gives the child time to get to know the nanny slowly, which makes the transition to full time so much easier.

Nanny A definitely, as she has the nicer vibe and will cook you tea.
Nanny b would send me running to the hills clutching my baby tbh. Being strict with a baby is bollocks IMO.