To be cross at DH's choice of chocolates

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Got up just now to see that DH has eaten the rest of the small box of dark chocolates I was given at work for doing someone a favour. Plus the rest of the m and m sharing bag I use to give a few at a time to the kids.

I wouldn't mind but he was given loads of chocs for Christmas, most of which he hasn't opened yet, and he was saying only yesterday how much he had. And he doesn't even like dark choc v much while I prefer it.

Should I say something when he gets up? I hate starting the day with a moan but I think it's selfish.

DH- what is his is yours and visa versa. It is January- if you had really wanted them (ie they were very special) then you would have eaten them by now.

You share a bed. You share children but you don't share food?

Would you have complained if he had eaten a tin of beans? He ate the m and ms that the children had ben eaten- so you value him less than you value them? He ate some chocolate hat had been given to you- but you are a family- do you get to use any of his gifts (wine food, etc)

Sorry you sound a bit odd to me

Open and eat his xmas chocolates.

I agree with Simbacat.
It seems bizarre to share a bed and bodily fluids yet be uptight about sharing chocolates?

How rude of him! Especially with no apology. He knows he's done wrong, so he's avoiding feeling guilty by going on the defensive before you've even said anything.

It really annoys me when DH does this - buys me chocolate for birthday or Christmas and then proceeds to eat it himself - bloody buy your own!
I had some Maltesers in the fridge (it's fecking hot here) in readiness to take to the cinema, rather than pay their exorbitant prices - DH decided to eat those, rather than some of the left over Celebrations. Annoying, because now I will have to go and buy some more, he certainly won't.

How rude of him! Especially with no apology. He knows he's done wrong, so he's avoiding feeling guilty by going on the defensive before you've even said anything.

It really annoys me when DH does this - buys me chocolate for birthday or Christmas and then proceeds to eat it himself - bloody buy your own!
I had some Maltesers in the fridge (it's fecking hot here) in readiness to take to the cinema, rather than pay their exorbitant prices - DH decided to eat those, rather than some of the left over Celebrations. Annoying, because now I will have to go and buy some more, he certainly won't.

Sorry, don't know how that posted twice!

Chocolates bought for the family = family chocolate.
CHocolate bought for an individual = NOT family chocolate.
Fairly straightforward, I would have thought.

You don't sound odd to me at all!

This would be a hanging Offense in our house, unless one of us had specifically asked to have some of the others chocs, or said that the other person could have some.

It's all very well being part of a family but you are still allowed to be a person with personal belongings you know!

I'd be very annoyed and would dig though his Christmas stash and find something I liked and eat that. (hopefully it's something he loves too so he knows how it feels)

You don't sound odd at all to me.

TSS doesn't share food.

YANBU

Dp ate my sweets whilst I was asleep. He blamed the dog, we don't have a dog! I am snaffling his Maltesers next though

He ate your chocolates!! Leave him!! No question.

It is January- if you had really wanted them (ie they were very special) then you would have eaten them by now
It was the DH's chocs which had not been finished from Christmas. OP didn't say when she got hers - I assume more recently.

You share a bed. You share children but you don't share food?
He didn't share though, did he? He polished them off!

what is his is yours and visa versa
Sounds more like a "what's hers is theirs, what's his is his" situation frankly.

Large box in compensation or his ass is toast, that's what I say.

Make him suffer for it. Make him really, really suffer...

No bastard body messes with my chocolate and gets away with it.

Yy Annie. And the chocolates were given as a thank you for some work done which makes them even more personal than a Xmas gift, IMO.

His and her chocolates... Once any sort of food crosses our threshold it's fair game for any of us, tbh. Can't imagine moaning at someone for eating "mine", or being moaned at, come to that, for not asking permission from someone else.
Finishing the entire box was a bit off, sure, but the box being yours is very anal.

Nobody in my house likes musili, my dad adores it so I have the empty box this goes in the cupboard with the rest of the cereals with my secret stash put inside.

that's a fabulous ploy, piper :o

in this house no one is allowed to take chocolates belonging to another. You may have one if offered, and you may be advised which selection to make, you may not ask, you may not take the favourite, you most certainly would be in serious trouble if you dived in without an invite!

we have all been brought up nicely and to share, but birthday chocolates are sacrosanct.

She said they don't share "treat" food, Simba. So chocolates etc. which have been bought/received as presents or something like that. She didn't say they don't share food. That is how I read it.

Has he grovelled and replaced the chocs yet??

You obviously don't have a greedy partner, molly. There are a few of us on here who would never get a look in with any treat food if we weren't 'anal' about hiding it away, as it would get snaffled within hours of it entering the house.

I have some very special Christmas chocolates left, but only because I have been eating what I got at Christmas at a sensible rate, whereas DP had eaten his half before new year. If he knew I had some left, I wouldn't actually have any left.

It's not about not sharing, though, is it?

I'm a teacher and get a lot of choc at Christmas and the end of the Summer term. I share them with my DH and DC, but would not be impressed if they helped themselves while I was asleep.

Bought my DH a small-ish 'hamper ' of lots of different kinds of chocolate bars for his 'stocking ' I got a bit carried away actually, but he thought it was a brilliant prezzie. I wouldn't have dreamt of helping myself. And if he'd polished off a box which was specifically mine I would have been miffed (wouldnt happen though-once I'd opened I'd have eaten the lot) I think I'd also be a bit put out if anyone in the family just finished off a box 'lying around' as it were.
I hide anything I don't want touched!

As a child my DM was given a tin of sweets (just post war). she licked the sugar off every one and put them back in the tin so that she didnt have to share with her brother. She is now mortified as she was so selfish.

Why wouldn't a family share food? I just don't get it.

Share children. Share money. Share food.

They are chocolates- he didnt eat your pet.

8It's not about not sharing, though, is it?

I'm a teacher and get a lot of choc at Christmas and the end of the Summer term. I share them with my DH and DC, but would not be impressed if they helped themselves while I was asleep.*

So that isnt really sharing is it. Ok to have with your permission but not without.

Do you all pay your individual share if he goes to the chip shop?

Just make sure he replaces them and in the mean time open some of his and eat them.