EX mil problems..............rant/vent/aibu

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I think im going to cry from frustration. those of you who've read previous posts know whats going on and are getting sick of me . if you havent, heres a quick run down!
Ex and i were under financial stress (Baby on the way,Him on ssp me too sick to work)
im 24 weeks pregnant
ex punched me in the throat
i left, reported to the police, he is on bail.
exMil has called my mother to ask whos name the baby will have. my mother just said well its none of your business is it? cue exmil ranting down the phone at my mother and my mother trying not to laugh it was so ridiculous ex mil came out with.
"He has a right to demand his child is in his name!" er, no, he doesn't actually.
"He would never hurt that baby" no just the mother of said baby while shes pregnant with said baby, right?
"I hope he doesnt go to prison and i will be having my grandchild every weekend as i have a right to" after the third statement my mother hung up the phone and called EE to have exmil's number blocked and to barr all calls from unknown numbers.
AIBU in thinking she is bloody ridiculous in not only defending an abuser (I could never, even if said abuser was my son) and demanding my child overnight! half of me is frustrated and the other half hasn't stopped laughing yet.
The amount of effort weve gone through (me, younger sis who lives with us, my mother) to barr all numbers from all phones and block them all on social media is bloody ridiculous aswell.
Thank you to everyone who listens to my pointless rants, practically daily!

Ici the OP is calling Netflix, Oreos and ice cream her boyfriends.

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She will get nothing out of litigation. You can ignore her and keep her phone barred.

You say that you could never defend an abuser even if that abuser was your son. It's a fact that many DV defendants who are awaiting trial, or have pleaded or been convicted and are awaiting sentence, are bailed to Mum's address. When push comes to shove, that's what Mum so often does.

I'm not saying she is right, I'm not saying she is wrong, but everyone with any professional or personal experience of DV litigation will recognise the pattern.

Good luck, OP, and keep us posted.

I took it to mean she'd met someone else too!

Wll done OP. What a nutter. Sadly a fair few of them about.

Please report every incident to the police. This builds up a pattern of harassment and could be used, should you ever need to. Also, if you haven't already report ex to the police , please do asap. Womens aid will normally have someone with you while you make your statement for support.

Later on, if he/she starts to assert their relationship with DC, it will be easier for you to make your case regarding access e.g access to dad only in a supervised child contact centre.
You might also want social services to know that you were assaulted, left, have no contact etc. this a) protects you b) means they get involved in any access arrangements later. However I know some people would find this hard

Priority is the police.

Nooooo im single forever and ever and ever :p Netflix,oreos and icecream are the closest i will ever have to another man in my life, pardon my crappy wording!
Social services are very likely to be called in at some point in my pregnancy (Basically got told by police to expect the phone call as i was assaulted while pregnant) but if they dont appear by the time im 30 weeks i do want them involved, even if only just in case ex takes me to court for visitation as I will likely need a professionals advice and support during that time.
I know ex has "Unofficial rights" (can't think of the right word) the second my child is born, even if he doesnt go on the birth cert if he believes he is the father (he is unfortunately) he can take me to court and have a DNA test then likely be granted PR then sorting out visitation will be a whole new nightmare. I will hate myself forever if i have to hand over my child to a man like him.