To be a bit miffed about PIL going on holiday when baby is due

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I recently found out that PIL will be away on holiday around the time our first baby (their second grandchild) is due. They're going away with BIL, his partner and daughter, and partner's parents.

I didn't expect them to be constantly at our side around the time the baby is born (and tbh I wouldn't want them to), but aibu in being a bit annoyed about this? I think if it was just the two of them going I wouldn't mind as much, but in a way it kind of feels like they're prioritising others over us. (And I know, it's not a competition, maybe I am just being a bit silly.)

DH isn't bothered, so that's probably what they were going on when they booked it, and it's not like I expect them to not go or anything, but... I dunno. Am I justified in being annoyed or am I just being preggo crazy and overly sensitive?

I promise you you'll be glad when the time comes - new mums get plenty of visitors poking at their baby and this is a few less!

I know that's not the real issue though, I know it's a worry about favouritism. It can be immensely hurtful to see yourself being passed over for siblings and sibling in laws, it's unfair and you feel bad on behalf of your child. DD plays second fiddle to DHs nieces and nephews by a country mile and the key is just learning to accept it, and knowing the love you give your child is more than enough for them. You'll get to a point where you really don't care and think 'good luck to them'.

I'm pregnant and wouldn't be bothered if anybody close to me (except DH) was holidaying around due date, they can just meet the baby on their return.

This is a big blessing. You get to have more time to yourself just the three of you. Also you get to recover a little before you have to entertain guests. It isn't that fun having people rushing to see you when you have just gone through birth and feel like you have been pulled through the hedge backwards.

YABU. Just enjoy not having a MIL trying to muscle in on your turf.

I wish mine were going away. Instead they, I imagine will be a pain in the arse.

Yes to this.

I wish mine had been away when my first baby arrived. Instead, they arrived on day 5 - along with my hormonal baby blues - and sat around the house on their arses being generally no use whatsoever.

I was away when my second grandchild was born and got a text just as I got on a train on the Prague underground. I don't think it made any difference. He didn't know, DS didn't mind and DiL was quite relieved that we didn't visit for a few days after the baby was born. As it happens the baby was due before we went away, but, like all babies he didn't know that .

YABU, I'm sure it's nothing personal. PIL went on hols 5 weeks before due date and DH had been winding them up for months about missing the birth as a joke...DS was born the next day

They were devastated as it was their long awaited grandchild after our recurrent mc and DH felt pretty bad about the jokes after that! It was long haul so they couldn't just get a flight back either.

So they might not miss it!