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AIBU?

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To have walked out?

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Celestria · 16/01/2015 12:18

I was due to start a trial for a job today at 12pm.

I arrived and was shown to the manager. Who immediately started having a go at me. He told me I was late and should have started at 11am.

I know with total certainty that he told me 12pm. I was excited about this job as it was part time within school hours and I also remember him saying 12pm because he wanted to throw me in the deep end at his busiest time.

So naturally once I got over my shock at his attitude, I replied that he had definitely told me 12pm. He replied that he definitely hadn't. Then said, well I suppose you are here now, and snapped at me to follow him.

I didn't. I said, no, I don't think I will. And walked out.

I was nervous enough about starting a new job without being treated so badly when I had not done anything wrong. It was a trial and so I was pretty convinced that he just wanted me to work the next couple of hours then let me go as not suitable or something. Because I was late, except I wasn't.

So, should I have just sucked it up? Pretended that I must have got it wrong and apologised for something I hadn't done? Wibu?

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Pigglesworth · 16/01/2015 12:21

I think you did the right thing!

HearMyRoar · 16/01/2015 12:22

No. I would have walked to. There was no point in staying in a job that started out so badly unless you were absolutely desperate.

In future I would make sure you get details like start times in writing though.

HowCanIMissYouIfYouWontGoAway · 16/01/2015 12:22

I would have done the same.

He showed you how you could expect to be treated there.

You refused to accept that.

I think you were right.

QuintlessShadows · 16/01/2015 12:23

You did the right thing.

And if the job center had "sent" you, let them know. Maybe he just want a lot of people on "trial" to work for free, continuously.

JeffVaderRunsTheDeathStar · 16/01/2015 12:23

I agree you did the right thing, I'd have done the same too.

molyholy · 16/01/2015 12:23

No - He sounds like an arsehole. I can't believe you were not sent a letter stating your trial start date and the time you were due to start. Seem very unprofessional.

molyholy · 16/01/2015 12:23

*Seems

LineRunner · 16/01/2015 12:24

Good for you.

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Celestria · 16/01/2015 12:24

I am still a bit shocked to be honest. I was made up with the job, even though it was nothing special, but the hours were perfect and I had experience. I will find something else, but even if it was unreasonable I would still do the same again.

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PresidentTwonk · 16/01/2015 12:25

YANBU you did the right thing for definite, maybe next time he will think twice before he talks to someone like that! Sorry the job you were excited about didn't work out though

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Celestria · 16/01/2015 12:25

He phoned me to say I'd passed the first stage and it would be a trial. That's why I didn't question the fact the hours were from 11am on the ad but he wanted me in at 12pm. Just presumed it was that time because it was a test run as such.

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DropYourSword · 16/01/2015 12:25

Aaarghhhh, I'm one of those fools who makes peace by pretending to think I may have been mistaken and got the time wrong. It doesn't do me any favours.

fascicle · 16/01/2015 12:31

I would usually advise sticking it out, but what you have described is a deal breaker. He's either an appalling manager, or somebody who decided it was appropriate to test your reactions, or both. There is zero possibility that he would have turned out to be a reasonable boss. Good luck with finding something else with a better employer.

FatChanceCafe · 16/01/2015 12:31

I think I may or may not have done the same thing.Nobody deserves to be treated like that . What you could have done is apologised and say You were very sorry you were under the impression it was 12.I hope you didn't turn up bang on 12 tho.

Gawjushun · 16/01/2015 12:32

Yeah, if he was comfortable being this shitty to someone he'd just met, imagine how bad it'd be down the line. Just no.

expatinscotland · 16/01/2015 12:35

YANBU. He is a dickhead.

YoniMitchell · 16/01/2015 12:35

You probably had a lucky escape! I also reckon he was banking on getting some free work out of you at the trial then claiming poor timekeeping as a reason 'it wouldn't work' and not giving you the job.

What an arse of a boss though - I feel sorry for his other employees!

RumbelowSale · 16/01/2015 12:37

Applause for you from me! Another job will surely come along,that one working for/with that pig isn't going to be good for you.

I decided I didn't want a quite high position in social services when I presented for interview 10mns before the start time, sat in an outer room while eight interviewers walked past me, all of them not even giving me a nod, a smile, any recognition at all that I was there, and went into the inner room. I could hear chat going on each time the door opened and closed.

Eventually, in their own good time(so late, then) I was called in. They were all seated at a long conference table, with a chair centred on the other side for me.

So once they'd shuffled their papers/picked their noses/whatever, the Head started speaking.

I politely raised my hand,cut her short, and started my speech.

So, for three minutes without hesitation, deviation or repetition I told them exactly what I though of them, their behaviour and what they could do with their poxy job. And then I rose, wished them all 'good morning' and left the room.
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To stunned silence.

And I felt great

NeedABumChange · 16/01/2015 12:37

Sorry but I think YABU. So it was a misunderstanding but from his point of view he's been waiting an hour for you, I'd be snappy.

Sounds like you aren't fussed about having this job. Not sure where being told off for being late is considered such appalling treatment?

squoosh · 16/01/2015 12:38

He is a cock. Hope his mouth dropped open in shock when you left.

NoImSpartacus · 16/01/2015 12:40

YANBU. He would be an arsehole to work for.

Summerisle1 · 16/01/2015 12:41

Well done. The man sounds like an utter arsehole and would certainly be a nightmare to work with. I also suspect that he gets quite a lot of free labour out of so-called "trials".

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Celestria · 16/01/2015 12:45

He had my mobile and my landline number. No attempts to call either seeing as he was so adamant I was supposed to start at 11am. I think it's more he wasn't fussed about whether I worked there or not.

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Topseyt · 16/01/2015 12:48

It might be possible to argue in this situation that both parties ought to have given each other the benefit of the doubt, but he was clearly not willing to give it to you.

That would not bode well for the future, so on balance I think you did the right thing.

I have had a couple of twats as managers in some jobs I have had and they can make life miserable. I certainly wouldn't knowingly walk into another such situation.

Things happen for a reason, I like to believe. Something else suitable, and perhaps even better will come along in time.

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Celestria · 16/01/2015 12:48

As for not fussed about working there, I am a lone parent with 4dc. I was delighted to get a job that was within school hours so wouldn't have to pay ridiculous child care costs.

That does not mean I will allow anyone to speak to me like that. He could have contacted me. But he didn't. I know the mistake is on his part. Not mine.

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