to take this money

[lincsafron]

Name changed as rather identifying.

But Shiney penguin date/cube of poo/stuffed pasta nannygate/scottishmummy = words on a screen, for my credentials.

Have been rather bored in one of my part time jobs and decided to hand in my notice, which I did in writing at the beginning of January.

However, I didn't see my boss or even work in his office (I can and do often work from home) for several weeks before Christmas, but when I went in there this week, I found a Christmas card left for me saying thanks for all my hard work and a very nice cash bonus.

I don't want to take it as I feel bad about leaving anyway, but he has said he wants me to have it because it is a bonus for the work I did last year.

So now I have to decide whether to take it, and if I do is he secretly going to think what a hypocritical grabby person? If I don't, is he going to think I am even rejecting this nice gesture and trying to make him feel bad?

Real dilemma here!

Aibu? or wwyd?

Take the money, did you work hard last year? Yes! Take it

Take it - and give it to charity if you feel rough about it.

take the money. It is a legitimate bonus. be glad that you were held in high regard and think fondly of your former employer!

Take the money. Sounds like you've already offered it back and he still wants you to have it.

If he said he wants you to keep it, then I take it you have spoken to him about this?

If that's right, then of course you should take it. It's the dignified thing to do I reckon. Your boss has told you to, and you have no need to martyr yourself, which wouldn't come across that well anyway.

Make a point of spending it sensibly if that helps get your head round it, do whatever it is you want with it, just don't fritter it.

It's for your work during the year, as all Xmas bonuses are. It sounds like you have a fair boss. Plenty don't. Enjoy the spending.

Take it you fool.

"you fool"

how nice.

It's for work that you have done, of course you take it.

Bloody hell why are you leaving a job where they treat you so well ???

Take the money with the grace that it was offered

Definitely take it, you'd be daft not to!

I think Trills meant it lovingly .

I seriously don't understand what the dilemma is. You worked hard last year; your bonus is based on that. But why were you paid in cash? If it was to avoid both you and your employer paying tax/NI, there's your ethical dilemma.

I don't understand why this is an issue. You received the bonus before you handed in your notice, a bonus for the previous years works.

I think if you refuse it you will come across as very rude, that you're too good for their bonus.

Take it
Your resignation does not lessen the work you did last year.

I don't think trills meant it in a bad way.

Of course take it. It's a profit-making enterprise. They don't hand out bonuses to be charitable, they do it because it's good for THEM (retains staff, boosts morale, increases sales, etc). Yes, in your case it's not working to retain you but as an overall concept, bonuses are part of the infrastructure. Take it.

MrsV - please don't worry about ethics. We're not talking on an Amazon scale or anything.

Only the bonus was in cash and when I say "very nice" I am just talking about 15 x my hourly rate! Still much appreciated, but we're not talking large sums here.

Trills meant it in an endearing way I'm sure.

Keep the money - I understand cash gifts can be difficult to except even during normal situations but to hand back a gift is well rude really.

keep it, enjoy it and if you can't do that use it to do a good deed.

take it you fool

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Take it, spend it, enjoy it - you earned it.