To think you don't excitedly announce your own 'good news' at a funeral?

[RubberBulletKisses]

Or did I miss the memo that says this is appropriate now?!

(She's going to be a grandmother, if anyone's interested )

She's generally a bit full on Ohfour, and quite OTT. A bit flirty with my DH as well actually, which is just bizarre. He's terrified of her I don't remember her being this bad at previous funerals though.

I recently attended the funeral of my late husbands DM, I remarried last summer and several relatives of my late DH who I hadn't seen for some years (DH died over 6 years ago) asked to see wedding photos at the lunch afterwards. I only showed them to those who had asked and did it discreetly at a table in the corner, I was hesitant at a funeral, but felt it was not inappropriate. I really hope nobody else did

That must have been tough, Hopping, and was very considerate!

jon, blimey, is that a common thing with your SIL?!

Evenstar, I don't think that sounds inappropriate, it's actually very nice of his family, they must care for you

Thinking of inappropriate responses... I remember once when we were younger (mid teens?) and my mum sat me and my sister down and told us she was having to give up work as she was being bullied and had depression. The first words out of my sister's mouth were 'but how will you afford our christmas presents?'. That went down like a lead balloon, but at least she had her youth to blame on that occasion.

Jesus no. It's the funeral of my father next week and if anyone did that I would physically collapse.

I'm sorry about your dad, Miscellaneous . I hope everyone behaves themselves...

As we left the crematorium after my dad's funeral, just outside the door, my aunty grabbed me full of joy and said my cousin had just had a baby a couple of weeks ago and here he was, waving her iphone in front of my face and flicking through the pictures. I thought it inappropriate. She was always a bit self-centred though.

My aunt outed me as pregnant at my Gran's funeral. She guessed as we were walking out of the crem! It felt so totally inappropriate for the reasons others have mentioned - it should be about the person who has died etc...

As ever in this situation it all depends. My uncle died unexpectedly at 63 and obviously I went to the funeral and ended up telling my parents and siblings that I was pregnant, even though I was only 8 weeks at the time. Their reaction was lovely, very much about life going on, but it wasn't something that was broadcast to all and sundry.

I went to a wedding where the groom's sister announced her pregnancy. People were happy, there was hugging etc, but it felt really odd. This was during the bit between ceremony and reception, so of course it ended up in the speeches etc.

But a funeral?? There are no words.

Going against the grain here, sorry. Funerals are about the deceased, sure, but are attended by family. I've been to quite a few family funerals (all of older people) and while the service and graveside is always quiet and respectful, there is a reception afterwards at which normal conversation is expected. Often family members only see each other at events like these and so it's completely normal to swap news and share catching up stories.

Of course standing up and 'making an announcement' is crass, but mentioning what's happening in your life at the social part afterwards seems normal.

Morris I do know what you mean, but this was at the house before the service, which I think feels different to the more casual chat afterwards. Plus her whole manner was just 'off', very bubbly and smiley, and it was definitely an announcement. It was just weird.

I do not think it is the time or place.

It was insensitive and inapppropriate IMHO. somebody should have told her to keep quiet.

I've been to a funeral where the deceased (elderly and ill) man's son was delivering his eulogy, and said as part of it how happy his dad was when he'd been able to tell him, just a couple of weeks before he died, that he was going to be a grandad and then followed it up with "Sarah's pregnant". Although I think the very closest family knew it was basically a pregnancy announcement but it was really touching and somehow worked.

I think in most circumstances it would be very inappropriate though.

I was 14 weeks pregnant at my grandmother's funeral and was seeing loads of relatives I don't usually see, though I do like them very much. I felt really awkward about the whole thing because I didn't want to draw attention away from the reason we were there, but also didn't want people to feel like I had kept a secret from them, especially with it being after people usually announce (I wanted to wait for the scan, but she died just before it) I was quite relieved when my Mum just gossiped it about beforehand, which meant everyone knew but without it being a big thing.

YANBU what an insensitive cow! It sounds like something that my mother would do - she hates not being centre of attention and blurts out all manner of tactless shit to turn the spotlight on herself.
I am going to DH's grandmothers funeral next week. The funeral has been arranged on my birthday so I have sworn DH to secrecy. It may be my birthday but we are mourning the passing of another life and I will have other birthdays.

I think the only way it would be appropriate would be if the news would have meant a Great deal for the deceased or the family of the deceased.

My poor mum had to go to her dads funeral with everyone knowing she'd just had me. It must have been very awkward but he would have been so pleased for her.
Her father actually died the night I was born.

My aunt did this at my dad's funeral. Apparently she felt it appropriate to stop me in my step as I was entering the church to share in her extremely loud voice the good news that her GD could now PULL HERSELF UP!!!! And wait eagerly for congratulations on this exploit.

She is the most egocentric person I have ever met though.

I agree with MorrisZapp.

So I would definitely be "it depends" and "no, often not inappropriate" in response to your title and OP, but the particular circumstances you describe in later posts made this particular announcement and the way it was done, inappropriate.

That doesn't though, mean it's always inappropriate.

YANBU. The saddest funeral I went to (family member who died in a terrible accident in her early 40s, a year after her wedding) involved the deceased's sister reading a letter from her own son about his amazing adventures in his gap year (with a 'I'll miss you aunty' thrown in at the end) and the deceased's best friend talking exclusively about her pfb in her eulogy. The same baby was then paraded around at the wake and we were expected to coo. it felt almost as though nobody on the deceased's side actually knew her at all. Her husband (my uncle) said some very touching words though, so at least someone gave her a good send off.