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AIBU to be vague about an accessory I wear?

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CallMeExhausted · 15/01/2015 14:12

I wear a crocheted wristband that I made some time ago pretty much all the time... It isn't anything particularly special, but it has a number embroidered on it that is significant to me. I wear it as a reminder.

If ever anyone asks about it, I just say that the number is significant to me, but doesn't mean anything to other people, and leave it at that.

Yesterday, shortly after I was introduced to a friend of a friend, I was again asked about it - so I gave my standard answer. This woman would not let it go! She got quite irate when I wouldn't explain it fully to her - but frankly, she is a stranger to me and I will likely never meet her again. I could not see why she had to know, and her reaction was bizarre.

So, AIBU not to share the significance of it? It is personal (just a 3 digit number, not a date or anything) - and she didn't have a need to know.

Should I just hide the wristband away too, or answer anyone who asks?

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EatShitDerek · 15/01/2015 14:13

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JainaProudmoore · 15/01/2015 14:15

Oh my goodness OP now I want to know what it means!
Yanbu, she should just have been happy with the answer she got. Continue as you are and keep giving your standard answer!

Wolfbasher · 15/01/2015 14:16

Of course you don't have to explain it, and she was rude to persist.

I do think that wearing something that other people can see does invite questioning though. It's a bit "look at me, I'm all mysterious" if you're then deliberately vague / make them feel nosy for asking.

If you'd like to be reminded of the number without other people commenting or asking, then I think you' be better off wearing something that's out of general sight.

By the way, the number's not 666, is it? Grin

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/01/2015 14:16

Your business, your decision.

However, it is curious that you choose to wear this number 'on display' as it were, rather than under clothes if you don't want anyone to know the meaning. Why display it? Why not turn the number to face you? People might think that is enigmatic (like Bond Grin) or attention seeking.

I speak as a naturally bloody nosy, tell me, tell me curious person.

Gawjushun · 15/01/2015 14:16

YANBU. It's none of her business, and totally her problem if she has a childish need to know everything. I'd make up something outlandish for situations like that such as "it's the number of people I've murdered!" and hope it'd shut them up.

Wolfbasher · 15/01/2015 14:16

XP with TerryPratchett!

gaggiagirl · 15/01/2015 14:17

Sounds like a unique piece. It would catch my eye and pique my curiosity. I wouldn't ask you about it the significance of the number though. Not if we had just met.
If we were friends though my nosy self wouldn't let it drop til you shared Blush
Is it 143?

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/01/2015 14:17

Actually Wolf we posted at the exact same time. Wooooooooooo. Psychic.

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CallMeExhausted · 15/01/2015 14:18

It is anonymous here - I'll spill.

The number is 358, and I wear it on my right wrist for a reason. It is my dominant hand - the one I eat with.

It is what I used to weigh, and a reminder to me that I never want to go there again.

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MonstrousRatbag · 15/01/2015 14:18

Surely the answer is 42?

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CallMeExhausted · 15/01/2015 14:20

And bring a towel, Ratbag

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MargotLovedTom · 15/01/2015 14:20

That is quite clever!

Tinkerball · 15/01/2015 14:20

Well done for losing weight OP!

ShatnersBassoon · 15/01/2015 14:21

Have a satisfying answer ready. Lie, in other words. It's the number of your first house, or the number of hours you balanced a blunderbuss on your chin to get your Guinness World Record.

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CallMeExhausted · 15/01/2015 14:21

I made it at the beginning of the "journey", but you may be right about something less conspicuous.

Maybe it is time to get myself an engraved ring or something.

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Jinglebells99 · 15/01/2015 14:21

Well you have me Curious nowSmile Smile I think you shouldn't need to explain to anyone but I'd you really don't want to talk about it, i think i would hide it under my sleeve. I know someone who had a three digit number tattooed on his arm because the number had a special significance for him and his wife-- his wife tools me the reason. i bet he gets asked about that alot.

fredfredgeorgejnr · 15/01/2015 14:22

Next time just say "it's the number of nosey bitches I've had to kill for not taking no for an answer"

nunkspugget · 15/01/2015 14:22

Oooh, what a good idea!

drbonnieblossman · 15/01/2015 14:24

Well done.

Smile

"Glad you like it, but it's personal and I don't discuss"

MonstrousRatbag · 15/01/2015 14:25

Haha! And I can relate: I had my max weight on the fridge, so I thought about it every time I opened the door. My DH and family though that was really negative, so I took it off.

Sprinkfest · 15/01/2015 14:26

I like Fred's suggestion. And well done OP.

It's not attention seeking, by the way. Sounds rather subtle to me. I probably wouldn't notice it.

NancyJones · 15/01/2015 14:26

It makes sense why you have it on display now.
Congratulations !

FelixFelix · 15/01/2015 14:26

Exhausted I thought it may be something to do with weight loss (well done by the way). I have a friend who used to write 52 on her hand before a night out to remind herself how well she had done losing weight and not to go for a takeaway on the way home Grin

JustAnotherControlFreak · 15/01/2015 14:26

is it the number on the back of your credit card (internet shopping)Wink

MrsTerryPratchett · 15/01/2015 14:26

I think an engraved ring is a lovely idea.

Well done, CallMe.

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