To not want to send DD into nursery with a cold

[blueberrypudding]

Dd, 9 months, has an awful cold. Non-stop nose leakage, drooling incessantly, a really bad cough and crying every time she's put down.

She's due to go into nursery today. It's only her second day as she goes once a week, and her first day she was quite upset (posted on here about it too). I'm reluctantly to take her in although I know colds are commonplace at nursery (i'm pretty sure that's where she got it from).

DH thinks I should still, for continuity. Part of me also thinks I'm going back to work in a couple of weeks and I wouldn't be able to stay home with her thenâ?ª so I should try and get her/me used to this kind of thing. But the other part of me just knows she's gonna be upset all day and she might infect other kids. I just hate the idea of her feeling awful and ill and not being able to get cuddles. :(

Am I just being ridiculous?

*reluctant

of course not

you know she'll be miserable and will probably pass it on to other babies

poor wee soul

I wouldn't send her, she sounds quite poorly. The dilemma will be worse for you when you are working but the fact that you have to go to work shouldn't be the decider as to whether a sick child should go to nursery. Poor little thing, hope she's soon better.

Yabu - she has just started so she is bound to catch every illness going round. Save the days off for when she is actually ill.

am shocked you would send a baby who is clearly unwell to nursery galvanized

op, welcome to the joys of work and kids

If she's not happy and you can keep her home then do. If she was just snotty then I'd say send her.

Not if she's low with it. She probably caught it from there last week. It's hard when they first start they get everything going.

Once a week at a nursery is it for a full day? Or could you do two half days to get the continuity going so it's familiar....

Don't send her in, especially not when she is unsettled there.

Don't send her. If she is unwell and she would be happier at home, warm, quiet, with you - keep her there.

I wouldn't go out if I felt low and didn't have to - and she doesn't have to.

If it were just a general snot and stuffed nose type cold then I would say take her in as normal but as it's a more feeling unwell on top then I'd keep her off if you can. It will be fun for no one and a worry for you, especially if the staff get concerned about her temp and end up phoning you to get her anyway.

Yanbu - I hate this dilemma!! Could you take her in for just a couple of hours? Sometimes a change of scene can work wonders for them and they can perk up a bit. I don't know how flexible nursery is, but if you're off anyway it can be the best of both worlds and will stop dp moaning...

knackered....sorry but what a load of crap!! Of course she's unsettled there, it's only her 2nd week after nearly 9 months of spending all day/every day with her mummy and she's at prime age for separation anxiety.

I agree with a pp, save the days off for when she is actually sick. Of course you may take her in and they may phone and ask you to pick her up because she is 'needing 1-on-1 attention and we can't provide that service' (I've had that one, he wasn't unwell just tired and they didn't think to put him down for a nap, got home he had a nap then woke up full of beans) but IMO you can't keep a child at home for every sniffle......bloody hell you'll never actually get to work!!!

Leaving a child at nursery is emotionally draining and when they aren't their best it's even more difficult but it does get easier and you won't think twice about taking her in with a cold in a few months

Oh forgot to ask...have you given her any calpol (other brands are available!!)?

if she isn't well in herself they'll send her home anyway so yanbu

Don't bother sending her if you don't have to. She will get into the routine soon enough when you are working.