Aibu to not want to talk about my DHs problem in the doctors

[Aubrianna]

Had a gp appointment today and it got round to what contraception I was using which is none. The reason being a problem my dh is having which means that I would be extremely unlikely to get pregnant and since I was having huge problems with mirena and it seemed pointless. The doctor was really put out that I wouldn't discuss it but I feel like that is my DHs business and I don't want to talk about it when I don't see it is relevant.

The doctor was really lovely and I now I feel bad about being short with him!

Was I being unreasonable? Or is it ok to just "it's not relevant".

Mumoftwins, I went to the miscarriage clinic with my female partner only to be told to be careful about contraception becayse I'd be more fertile after a miscarriage!

OP, you say the issue is a sore point, perhaps your gp picked up on that and wanted to give you a chance to discuss it from your pov? Don't worry about being short though, they'll have realised that you were doing it because you didn't want to talk any further about it.

Lweji I supppse I could talk to the doctor about it but I am a bit worried that it may be that dh finds it difficult with me as opposed to in general and so I would probably have a nervous breakdown trying to explain that to a doctor!

Sorcha- we have not really talked about it because it seems to make it even worse when we try.

I understand it, but it's either a physical problem, a psychological problem or a relationship problem.
Either way it seems to a problem for you and, so, it should be addressed. How long has it been for? And do you manage to have sex occasionally, or not at all?
It may be fixable or not. If it's not fixable, you may need to decide whether to stay or not, but at least would reassure you. If it's fixable, then he should be working on it for your sake, regardless of his shyness.
If it's a relationship thing (if he's not sexually attracted to you any longer), then why stay put?

It has been for around 10-12 months I think I don't really remember it sort of gradually crept up!

We can have sex briefly but then have to stop

It is important to me I would like it fixed but I wouldn't leave him Over it