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Dp's snoring!!!

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Chickenfillets · 13/01/2015 23:41

I'm 23 week pg so haven't really been having the best sleeps as it is. For the past 4 nights my dp has been snoring constantly all night so so loudly!! Last night I kept waking him up asking him to stop. He then got up, screamed and me and went and slept on the sofa. Now tonight he's doing the same!! I haven't slept for days now and I'm so drained. I really do feel like bursting into tears! Aibu to wake him up again and ask him to go on the sofa? I just feel so mean but I'm so so tired!

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StilleNachtCarolling · 13/01/2015 23:44

My husband snores like a steam train. We sleep in separate beds most nights otherwise I just get no sleep! I'm suffering with insomnia as it is at the moment anyway so I'd rather lie awake in a quiet room than listen to him snore. I have to close both his and my door though, otherwise I can still hear him!

GreyjoysAnatomy · 13/01/2015 23:47

Can't you go on the sofa? It's irritating, but he's not doing it on purpose Wink

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Chickenfillets · 13/01/2015 23:48

I would go on the sofa, but with this massive belly of mine I wouldn't fit Hmm

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youareallbonkers · 13/01/2015 23:54

What I do is grab a corner of the pillow and yank it suddenly then lie down quick and pretend to be asleep. He will wake up but won't know why and you should be asleep before he starts again.

The screaming at you is unacceptable though

Stinkle · 13/01/2015 23:55

My DH snores too. He's got a cold at the moment so it's worse than usual and I can hear him from down stairs. I'm knackered, but can't be arsed to go up as I know I'm not going to get any sleep.

He's not overweight or anything, and he's not a big drinker and I know he can't help it, but while he's in dreamland I'm the one suffering for it.

I'm a terrible sleeper at the best of times, I take ages to actually fall asleep and then I wake up if DH so much as moves in bed, so I'm absolutely knackered at the best of times.

It's messing up my already messed up sleep patterns as I end up napping during the day and it's even harder to fall asleep at night

This racket is just enraging me at the moment Angry

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Chickenfillets · 13/01/2015 23:57

That trick failed for me. Turns out he has a very heavy head! I tried to yank the pillow but my hand just slipped back straight into my face Confused ouch!

He did apologise this morning for screaming at me. He's grumpy when he's woken up Blush

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Artistic · 14/01/2015 00:21

Buy him a pack of those nasal strips..they do reduce the snoring (for some people if not all). You are pregnant - you need the bed. Warn him before he sleeps off that you will be waking him if he snores! Grin Less grumpy when prepared...

HansieLove · 14/01/2015 00:45

I like the idea of telling him I am going to wake him up if he snores. Even though you are now on night two, I'd still wake him up.

I've been married 48 years and he has snored all of them. After thirty or thirty five years he started sleeping elsewhere, because he got tired of me poking him and telling him he is snoring. At last house he was in basement, that was okay. Now we sleep on same level, and I hear him from about thirty feet away.

He won't go to sleep clinic. It is free, I went! (Slight snoring, no need for C Pap). I bought him a chin strap but he tossed it. He says I snore. I do, grandchildren tell me so. But not as bad as him!

My oldest DS snores loudly but he is on a C Pap machine.

Well, hope you get some sleep tonight. It is your turn!

Mumm300 · 14/01/2015 00:46

Wake him up and ask him to turn over/sleep on side not on back/snore away from you/just change position to see if snoring quieter/remove or add a pillow.
Put the radio on and listen to radio 4 or 4 extra to bore you to sleep. You may need to have it on quite LOUD. :) Read some unrealistic pegnancy/ childcare advice books to bore you to sleep eg penelope leach.
On the bright side its good training for the night feeds when the lovely one has arrived, but they are much more pleasant because you will have a gorgeous baby to cuddle.
Whether yabu I dont know. Depends how well he sleeps on the sofa. Does he have demanding job. I invested in a really good matress on the spare bed so I can sleep there if needed in this situation, or for lying down night feeds, this is the stuff penelope leach does not mention.

Marshy · 14/01/2015 01:10

My dh is wearing a nasal strip right now and it is very peaceful in our bedroom. He's sleeping better too as doesn't keep waking himself up and I don't have to keep poking him in the ribs. Winners all round!

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 14/01/2015 06:18

Separate bedrooms for us.

Andcake · 14/01/2015 06:47

Nytols snore spray has helped us ( except tonight web he forgot to use it) we used to row about it too so it helps.

DollyMcDolly · 14/01/2015 06:55

I wear very good ear plugs. I used to wake DH up all the time during the night just to get 5 mins peace but decided that wasn't fair as he's in a high pressured job so went on Amazon. Best thing I ever did.

Cheesymonster · 14/01/2015 07:03

Have you tried earplugs OP? My DH snores loudly and I have used these ones for years. They are comfortable and really work.

On the odd occasion his snoring still keeps me awake, I sleep at the opposite end of the bed so we're "top and tailing" and his head isn't right next to mine. Maybe you could try that? Buggered if I'm sleeping on a cold couch!

Good luck Smile

DoctorDonnaNoble · 14/01/2015 07:03

I'd love to try that but if they were good enough to block DH's snoring I wouldn't hear my alarm. I've just this week found out I'm pregnant and I'm not sleeping well at all. Hmm

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Chickenfillets · 14/01/2015 07:53

I managed to get a full hours sleep Hmm Iv tried ear plugs but they don't seem to stay in my ears. Think I might try the nasal strips see if they help. Thanks

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Sickoffrozen · 14/01/2015 08:10

Assume you don't have a spare room? That's where I go if mine starts. I am a big fan of seperate beds for sleep!

WizardOfToss · 14/01/2015 08:14

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evenherfartsarefragrant1 · 14/01/2015 09:24

Can I suggest that with a child on the way, if there is space, a spare bed can be a real godsend. I had an adult single bed in the nursery. I used it when pregnant and whole months after DD was born. Ideally my ex would have slept there.
That bed was so handy!

Writerwannabe83 · 14/01/2015 09:35

If he was any kind of husband he'd be offering to sleep on the sofa not just sit back and see his pregnant wife struggle on 1 hours sleep. Hmm

shadowfax07 · 14/01/2015 09:35

OP, if you have a Wilkinson's near you, try their own brand ear plugs. They seem to be a little bit smaller than the others I've tried. Both DP and the dog snore, you have my sympathies

gamerchick · 14/01/2015 09:39

This is why I have my own bedroom. There's no law that says you have to share a bed.

SistersOfPercy · 14/01/2015 09:55

Ear plugs only block out 39db of noise, that equates to a whisper. If you have a serious snorer they are no use whatsoever.

Firstly look at the reasons why he's snoring, the usual overweight, smoking, drinking etc. If none of those fit (and they didn't for my dh) then it's something he should see the GP about.

We sleep in separate rooms. He'll sleep in with me if we don't need to get up the following day and he gets in with new for an hour before sleep to snuggle, read, watch TV etc. We couldn't have carried on like we were i'd have killed him

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Chickenfillets · 14/01/2015 10:23

He only really snores when he's had a drink but that's rarely so I can deal with it. He's got a cold and sore throat coming on so I think that's the reason. I hate telling him to sleep on the couch because he is 6ft himself and it's a tight squeeze. He also does have a very psychical job so he really needs his sleep. We do have a spare bed but it's currently filled with mil's knitting stuff and baby things. Not really any where else to put it all. Hopefully his cold won't last for long. Suppose it is all good practice for when the little one is here Smile

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itsnotmeitsyou1 · 14/01/2015 10:35

Mine does as well, seems to improve when I wake him up to make him sleep on his side. Haven't had a full night unbroken sleep in months but the only other option is making him sleep on the sofa, don't have a spare bed. I get the 'well I'm asleep, how can I help it' excuse, but he won't buy any strips or sprays to help. Its OK for him, he works from home, I on the other hand have an awful time getting up in the morning and drag my poor knackered self to work. Grumble grumble.