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To feel annoyed with my friend selling....

29 replies

lostscot · 13/01/2015 19:45

Stuff that I sold to her for loads more? She bought a dolls house off me couple of years back for £5, now she's selling it on with a couple of figures for £25 once off I thought but today I've seen a bed she bought off me for £20 I think again 2 years back for sale for £35! Too chicken to mention it but I can't believe it! Oh and if I thought they needed the money I'd be ok but def not.

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PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 13/01/2015 19:47

Yabu it's not yours anymore. She can do what she likes with it.

YoullLikeItNotaLot · 13/01/2015 19:47

But if you sold it to her, it's now hers to do with what she wants surely?

Summerisle1 · 13/01/2015 19:47

It sounds like you need to adjust your pricing strategy here. Only once she has bought the items they are hers to dispose of at whatever price she thinks she can get. Clearly you are undercharging!

Monkeyblue2 · 13/01/2015 19:47

Yabu you sold it to her!

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Leeds2 · 13/01/2015 19:48

I think YABU.

londonrach · 13/01/2015 19:48

Yabu. Once you sold an item its not yours so she can sell it for what she wants. Maybe increase your price!

AngelDreams · 13/01/2015 19:49

Do you still want/need it? No?

Then what's the problem ? Do you think she took advantage of you? Were you happy with the price she gave you at the time?

If it was a couple of weeks or even months then maybe, but years?

YABU

SurlyCue · 13/01/2015 19:49

Of course youre being unreasonable! If you'd wanted £35 for the bed you should have asked £35 for it. You are being very silly. Why is it any skin off your nose?

FightOrFlight · 13/01/2015 19:49

If you sell your house to someone do you think you have a right to tell them they can't sell it on for a profit?

You are not only BU you are seriously strange.

ChristmasEva50 · 13/01/2015 19:50

YABU. She bought them and can do what she likes with them.

fluffyraggies · 13/01/2015 19:51

Sorry YABU i think. It's a couple of years ... she's bought it from you, used it until she doesn't need it any more and then sold it on. What does it matter what she's charging? It's not as if she's expecting you to buy it back!

ghostspirit · 13/01/2015 19:51

its not yours anymore....

FightOrFlight · 13/01/2015 19:52

If you really want to burst a blood vessel, sell something at a car boot sale only to see the person who bought it selling it for a higher price on the same day. Happened to me a couple of times, I shrugged and moved on.

Personally I doff my hat to them for having better business acumen than me.

DustBunnyFarmer · 13/01/2015 19:52

She may be pricing the items expecting people (strangers) to haggle her down to more like what she paid you. When I sell to friends I tend to think of a fair price and they usually pay what I've asked. Selling on the open market is different, although it does sound like you are selling abit cheap.

CaptainAnkles · 13/01/2015 19:53

If they were only worth what she gave you for them a couple of years ago, just feel sorry for the idiots who are paying too much for stuff you didn't want.

Flomple · 13/01/2015 20:01

Harsh replies here tonight! If you sold stuff for nominal amounts she's kind of reneging on the 'pay it forward' philosophy that often operates around baby stuff. I'd be uncomfortable charging more for a second hand item when I'd bought it from a friend, knowing they'd likely given me mates' rates on it.

Lesson learned for next time OP.

WooWooOwl · 13/01/2015 20:06

I can see why you're annoyed, but she isn't doing anything wrong. You chose the price you sold the things for.

MrMcGintysGoat · 13/01/2015 20:06

You're going to feel really awful if she then offers to split the profit she made!

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lostscot · 13/01/2015 20:07

Obv I was too nice first time round then! I'm not bursting a blood vessel just think it's a bit cheeky. To call me seriously strange is bit ott I think!

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Branleuse · 13/01/2015 20:08

id be annoyed too but i wouldnt say anything because you did sell it to her. it would be worse if it was a gift

BeeRayKay · 13/01/2015 20:12

Seriously you ABVU! Its not your business what hse does with it now. Things fluctuate in desirability, her pricing could refelct that. Or the fact people will prolly barter her down anyway.

SurlyCue · 13/01/2015 21:00

How is it cheeky? Confused were you expecting her to return the items to you? I dont understand how this affects you.

JammyGem · 13/01/2015 22:05

I think you're getting really harsh replies. If you gave her a cheaper price because she's your friend, I can see why you're annoyed - I'd be too, and however unreasonable it may be, I'd feel a little taken advantage of too.

Madeyemoodysmum · 13/01/2015 22:33

I Agree with jennygem. I think its cheeky too. I'd not offer her stuff from now on or charge more!

I had a Friend (one of a nct group not a close friend ) who coveted my sons clothes as I used to give her his old stuff free. I stopped as it really annoyed me that she assumed everything would be hers. She gets nothing off me now.