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about cuddling/sleep habbits

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GingerCuddleMonster · 12/01/2015 21:42

didn't really know where to post this for help/advice/a telling off.

DS is now 5mo and I have returned to full time work, I've returned home after a long day of work, played with DS, washed all baby things,bathed,fed him manage to feed myself and watch university challenge!!

and now....laying in bed with him cuddled up in my arms, am I being unreasonable/setting a bad habbit?

I just feel so guilty and like I don't spend enough time with him as it is that these cuddles make my day worth while even if he is fast asleep, but then on the other hand will I set a bad habbit of cuddle to sleep?

I don't know what do to, I'm so conflicted but I love my bedtime snuggles .

also I'll add DP can not help, he is based away with work Mon-fri so when I get home it's just me.

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ShinyHappySteeple · 12/01/2015 21:46

I'd say go with it - I always think babies know they're getting a cuddle even when they're asleep, and they appreciate it! He's getting some mummy time, and you're getting some time with him. I wouldn't worry about "bad habits" in the future, do what you need to do now. You can't spoil a baby with cuddles!

Cooki3Monst3r · 12/01/2015 21:48

Don't be daft!! Just think of all those yummy scrummy endorphins rushing through your little one right now!

says the woman whose nearly 3 yo still wakes every night to join mummy & daddy

NoTedInTheBed · 12/01/2015 21:50

Life is far too short not to cuddle your baby! Best thing ever.

StrikesMatches · 12/01/2015 21:52

DS is 2.6 and most nights, when I got in to check on him before I go to bed, I want to pick him up for a cuddle (have done once or twice!). DD (4.7) very helpfully comes in to me during the nigth most bloody nights because she "misses Mama". Enjoy the cuddles, they are good for both of you.

CelibacyCakeAndElevatorMuzac · 12/01/2015 21:53

He will never be this age again.

There are worse things in life than cuddling your baby to sleep.

I say this as someone who cuddles her 21 month old son to sleep every night thought.

I don't feel it is a negative, it's how he gets to sleep and it's half an hour of me not cleaning up

tracyrobo · 12/01/2015 21:53

Cuddle him while you can, they grow up so fast. I rocked my baby to sleep most nights and was warned by some that he wouldn't sleep on his own. He's now happily settled in his own room and I miss rocking him to sleep!

MrsTawdry · 12/01/2015 21:55

Oh no you're fine! It won't last forever because nature demands that it doesn't. You will get tired of it eventually....or he will.

MyLeftElbow · 12/01/2015 21:56

I slept with my firstborn in my bed with me for a long time (4 years or so) and now he's 14 and hasn't even wanted a hug from me in a couple of years! I say enjoy it, enjoy every single moment because they are little for such a short time really.

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GingerCuddleMonster · 12/01/2015 22:00

thank you all, I could cry.

I'll just sit here for a wee bit longer, watching him scrunch his little nose and bury himself in my chest

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pointythings · 12/01/2015 22:20

Just cuddle him. I went back to work when my DDs were about 6 months - that was paid mat leave back then - and I always had sleepy cuddles at bedtime. OK, theirs was earlier but that was just what worked for us.

And do you know what? They are now almost 14 and almost 12, and there are still times when they want me to lie down with them for a quick cuddle at bedtime. Set yourself up for a lifetime of love, cuddle your DC.

AntiHop · 12/01/2015 22:36

I'm cuddling my sleeping dd right now! She's 4 months and I do it every night. She falls asleep during her feed and I hold her for a while before putting her in her cot.

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/01/2015 22:36

I used to cuddle DD and let her sleep in my arms all the time. Now, at 4 yo, I have to grab a hug as she rushes past. She seems not to have become addicted to hugs... I still am though.

puntasticusername · 12/01/2015 23:14

Oh god no, YANBU, stock up on the scrummy baby cuddles while you can! Don't forget to get a few really good sniffs of his head.

murmuration · 12/01/2015 23:30

If it's not a problem for you, do it!! I cuddled DD to sleep as long as she wanted it. Around 9 months she started pushing me away and needing her own space. Definitely no bad habits started. Now, at 2yo, she's willing to accept cuddles again, but sometimes complains "Me sleep my own!" Get the cuddles when you can.

QTPie · 12/01/2015 23:42

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StrikesMatches · 16/01/2015 00:34

I hope you're still enjoying your cuddles op... DS was crying in his sleep so I just went in to him. He looked up at me all soft and sleepy so I picked him up for a cuddle, sitting on the chair in his room. I got 3 seconds before he wriggled down, walked to his cot and tried to climb in by himself, saying, "bed Mama". Not even 3, and I can't get a cuddle.

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