To go ahead with party

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ds has his bday soon - last week I booked and paid a deposit for his 4th birthday - meant to get invites out today but had a trouble with the printer. Today he got an invite for a bday party on the same day as his - different times ours is booked later in the afternoon and this one in the morning - it will be the same preschool group invited - Aibu to send the invites out regardless - will many go to 2 parties?

Should I try and postpone (don't want to lose the deposit of £80 but they might not penalise me if I just move dates - however as of now I don't know if they would and if there are other dates available - they are pretty booked out. Will the parents of the other party be upset that we go ahead as our invites will come out second - sorry am a rookie at this so wwyd?

I'd go to both, no problem at all, good to keep them busy.

Why don't you find out if you can change the date? At least ask about it; you have nothing to lose. I would much prefer not having two parties on the same day, (though I would have made the effort to get my chid to both).

I Would go to both Also but would I be treading on toes? I don't really know "the mums" apart from brief chats at other parties (I drop off early as work ft and don't do the pickup either - the other mums know each other and many have older dc so know each other from this and we also moved to this area so don't know people locally from growing up here) .

I always try and take my dcs to all the parties they get invited to. That said, I wouldn't want to spend all morning at a birthday party and then all afternoon at one as well. It's not so bad when you can just drop them off at the party and pick them up at the end but at four you need to stay with them.

Some parents would go to both but I wouldn't as the weekend is the only family time we get and I wouldn't want to give up half of that time unless I'd already said yes to one party and the second was their best friend.

If I were you I'd see if I could move the party to the following weekend.

I would say go ahead. When we were in that position when DD was in nursery we once had two parties more or less one after the other. In fact, we had three all in one weekend and it was pretty much the same group of children and parents attending them all!

Look at it this way. If you postpone to the next day then potential guests may be faced with a whole weekend of taking their children to parties. Whereas if you leave it whenit is then they just have one intense day and the next day they can do something else.

Well I moved it - thanks for the advice - probably no right answer :) If the invites ahead gone out on Monday as planned I would. Have gone ahead without question - just pipped to the post!

I wouldn't go to both. Ds would have been exhausted from the first and fallen asleep on the way home. So I would have chosen the friend he liked the best. Sorry!
I wouldn't hold a party on the same day as another just for that reason - Kids will be knackered