To think I'm just not cut out to be a mum

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Everybody else seems to cope with the sleep deprivation but I just can't. I Have a 4 month old and a 3 year old, the 4 month old wakes 2-3 times a night, then the 3 year old is up at 6.30am and doesn't nap in the day. I Really really struggle to wake up in the morning. Ironic I know as it's 2am and I'm awake. I used to get up early to walk the dog before work and see to my horse before uni, so it's just having children I can't cope with.

I'm Currently inpatient on a mother and baby psychiatric ward as my post natal depression got so bad, but I'm scared that it's not illness, I'm just not cut out for this.

BeckyH - probably better to start a brand new thread for this query

I too have had a similar experience-my son didn't sleep thru until he was 2 1/2 and I felt useless because I couldn't follow thru with any of the 'expert' advice on techniques. I've started seeing the mental health team who have made me see that not being able to stand hearing my baby cry is a good sign- wanting to stop my baby's distress is a natural maternal instinct not a sign of weakness. Thinking like this has helped me change my reactions & the way I see myself as a parent. You are not alone and seeking help shows that you want to make things better for your children. That's a natural mother in my eyes x

It's not only you, please don't feel like everyone else is coping fine and enjoying it and you are the only one struggling. Many many new mums get desperate and feel they can't cope, it's so hard. You deserve praise for seeking help for PND and getting this dealt with, this shows you have the perfect attributes for being a good mum. When you start to feel better (which you will) things will become a bit easier and I promise you'll start to enjoy it. Remember to always ask for help and reach out when you need it.