Re: petty wine possessiveness...

[CeliaLytton]

My pettiness!

I like a certain red wine. I don't drink often or much and when I do, I really like to have one or two glasses of this to enjoy. It is between £9 and £11 a bottle which is more than I would spend, so when it is on offer for a fiver a bottle I snap up half a dozen.

DH drinks any old shite so when shopping, he buys the cheapest plonk he can find.

All fine and dandy.

EXCEPT...

When I go into the cupboard thinking that there were a couple of bottles left to find that he has drunk all my wine and there is nothing there for me to have on the occasion I fancy it!

His solution? Buy another bottle of the nice wine. But now it is £11 in the local shop and I don't want to spend that! I just want wine waiting in the cupboard for me when I bought it specially. DH reckons as finances are shared, wine is also shared.

AIBU to think I should keep my wine in a locked cupboard from now on and tell him to buy 300 bottles of Tesco value wine for his own consumption so he will never again be caught short and drink mine?

I appreciate this is petty and first world but by god it winds me up

There is no such thing as petty wine possessiveness.

DH buys himself utterly rank lower-alcohol muck, as when he drinks he tends to neck a whole bottle without thinking about it, and his liver would prefer it to be 5.5% than 12.5% plus. He is perfectly trained to leave my chocolate alone, but if he's guzzled his own shitey stuff and fancies a drink the next night, he'll help himself to the last bottle of Real Wine and have the lot down him by the time I've sat in front of the telly. Then if I really want a drink I have to drive to some overpriced Spar and hope for the best. I usually fume silently instead.

I'm hugely envious of ravenAK's dual wine rack scenario. We can barely keep two bottles in the house at the same time.

Put it in the bottom of the washing basket. If he finds it, he deserves it :)

At £5 a bottle it can't be any fancier than the "cheap" stuff he drinks. Why not just only buy the £5 stuff or try a few more and find more you like

If you're getting it from a supermarket and it's often 'half price was £10 now £5' then it's not £10 wine. Just saying.

Have a look at its price fluctuations on www.mysupermarket.co.uk and it's likely the price goes up and down like a yoyo.

I'm no wine snob, all my wine comes from Aldi. I just get their cava or pro secco, that's always around a fiver a bottle with no silly games like the bigger supermarkets that pretend that similar wine was was £12 but is always half price somewhere.

YANBU to be pissed off though that your DH drinks your stash so there's none there when you want some. You need to hide it and it's quite lucky you're both drinking red, because if you were on white, you'd need to keep it chilled in plain sight in the fridge.

Have you asked him not to drink your wine? How much is he drinking if he runs out between shopping trips?

Don't argue or get precious, just use a shopping list!

When stocks of anything get low, put it on the shopping list. You may need to explain this concept to dh. (My intelligent engineer took a while to understand the concept of putting thing I rarely use, like the coffee which he loves and I never drink, on the shopping list when he opens the last packet, and not when he finishes it.) So, if he sees that stocks of something are getting low - ie he has opened the last or last-but-one bottle, he must add it to the shopping list. That way you know about it and can keep an eye out for it.

YANBU to be annoyed. YABU to low it up into a trust/respect issue.

And this kind of shit is why I love living alone!