DS (17) is visiting his father this weekend.
Said XP has been a crap dad since DS was tiny, and contact between them had fallen to around five days a year for the past few years.
When contact was more regular, and DS was younger, XP would take him on holiday abroad and refuse to give me any idea of where they were going apart from the country they were visiting. It was horrible for me but all I could do was bite my lip so as not to get DS too stressed about it.
About 5 years ago XP moved out of our area and ever since has kept his address secret from me - it's no coincidence that he hasn't paid his due in child support and the CSA would like to find him. He pays a very small amount direct to me but owes a lot more.
We are trying to move house at the moment (rented) and have a house to look at soon. We have lived in the same house for many years. We tried to move a long time ago but XP jeopardised my attempts by sabotaging my online advert (no firm proof but he posted malicious details that noone else could have known about).
DS has just texted me to ask the name of the road where the new house is to tell his dad. I know this is because his dad grew up in that area and is probably just being inquisitive.
So...WIBU to text XP and tell him that I will be happy to give him our address when he gives me his?
Or can I be less polite?
....I know that if we do move there, DS will want his dad to know, but it's early days yet and I just want this to have nothing to do with XP right now.
And I don't want DS to feel embroiled in this 