Sorry if this ends up pretty long. My DSD has been in my life for about 13 years now (since I was 9). We aren't particularly close per se but we get on well enough. Recently a lot of fam drama has kicked off with his two sons, my DB and my DM and not many people are getting along, drama I'm not really involved in because I don't live with them.
I'm 20 weeks pregnant. When we first told him at about 6 weeks pg (early I know) he seemed happy but he later said to DM whilst they were talking about it "Well it's not my grandchild is it." I was quite upset with this but assumed he felt a bit put out (even though we'd gone to effort to invite him round and tell him properly - a courtesy we didn't even afford my Ddad!) Then a few weeks ago he decided he was going to book a trip to a city 3 hrs away for himself, DM, and all of his siblings + partners as it's his brother's 60th, 5 days before my due date. When DM pointed the date out to him he said "Well it's only 3 hours away." DM is disabled and although she drives, I would not be happy her driving all that way alone, and he's never going to stay sober the whole time just in case as he drinks an awful lot (I think he might have a problem - whole different thread though!). Then today DM told me that at Christmas he revealed the name me and DH plan on calling our child to other relatives, having only told my DH's parents and my DM and DSD in strict confidence, again whilst he was drunk.
AIBU to be entirely pissed off with him and never wanna talk to him again? Should I just let it wash over me? Is it pg hormones making me feel irrationally annoyed or is there some merit to feeling perturbed? Thanks for sticking with me!