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AIBU to wish I never bought a house next to a dog family

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myfallingstar · 08/01/2015 07:23

We Have recently brought a home and next door have two doors their a young could not that matters I suppose however 3 months in the dogs are becoming a issue

We did ask about them however they had only moved in themslefs so owner could give us no back story

To be fair the dogs the had were fine and made little noise german Shepard and grey hound but they have just got a new dog a it yaps all frigging night last week it woke baby at 2am and she pretty much didn't fall ball asleep till 6am I was on the verge of tears I was so tired and dh had to book the day off work because he wasn't fit to drive he was to knackered

I did go over and sk about the dog and kept it friendly and light as I could but really and truly they can't stop a dog barking that what dogs do he's barking now and it's driving me nuts and I don't want to have a massive fall out over this

Also there garden whitch is currently more poo than grass it's their garden but surely as soon as it starts to get warm it will stink to high heaven

They have a baby as well btw

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KoalaDownUnder · 08/01/2015 09:10

Oh, and I sleep with earplugs in every night of the year, but I still get woken up by a dog barking - my own or next door's! It can be v piercing if you're a light sleeper.

lemisscared · 08/01/2015 09:27

you say its a new dog? that might explain the yap - it should hopefully settle down.

we have two bastards jrts who will go in garden and bark if they are allowed but well, their not. I think you'll find that most dog owners don't want to listen to it either and are considerate of their neighbours.

saying that there is a dog over the back of us that has woken dd at stupid o clock because its owner stands outside smoking while the bastard thing yaps like fuck.

Have a word with your neighbour, pop in to your local vets and get a leaflet on adaptil and dap and give it to them.

most dog owners don't allow their dogs to disturb their neighbours and actually if they allow it to continue then yes, they could be made to get rid.

Theas18 · 08/01/2015 09:29

tricky I can hear my swimming instructor talking - it takes the background hum of the pool away I'm sure you'd be aware of a baby crying next to you

DixieNormas · 08/01/2015 09:45

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NeedABumChange · 08/01/2015 10:18

Lots of people say the same about babies next door OP. I'd rather my neighbours got a dog than had a baby!

Trickydecision · 08/01/2015 10:54

Theas, doesn't that indicate you would still hear the dogs? They don't sound like a background hum. (Pictures canine quartet humming gently in chorus)

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 08/01/2015 11:14

Myfallingstar - I would hope that the barking was just because the dog was new, and wasn't settled in yet. Hopefully, the dog will settle and the nights will go back to being peaceful. I am no expert, but I do wonder whether the fact that there are already two dogs in the house who do settle well at night will speed this up, as the new dog will copy their behaviour. I would wait and see - if it goes on, you could knock on their door and explain how it is waking the baby, and making your life so hard, and ask if they can do more to settle the dog.

Another poster has mentioned Adaptil - it comes as a collar, a diffuser or a spray, and is a pheromone based treatment that is supposed to help dogs be more calm - if the dog carries on not settling at night, that is what I would try.

I know how horrible it is to be kept awake all night by anything, and how dreadful you feel the next day (I have insomnia, and sometimes have runs of nights where I get very little sleep - I get some, but after a few days, the sleep deficit builds up and I could cry from the extra tiredness). I am not sure that one disturbed night is a good enough reason for your dh to miss work, though. Is there no other way he could have got to work - public transport/taxi/lift?

Re. the poo in the garden - I would hope they will get more conscientious about clearing it come the warmer weather. I know dh and I are a bit less conscientious in the winter, about clearing the garden - though we wouldn't let the lawn get completely covered, as your OP suggests your neighbours' is. If we get a hard frost, we nip out and do it then - we aren't squishing round on a muddy lawn, and frozen poo is much easier to pick up (poopsicles, they are known as in our household - sorry!).

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myfallingstar · 08/01/2015 12:13

Their is just so much poo and the garden is not even that big

I do no she don't walk the dogs as they just go in the garden I would is gain that's why theirs so much poo out their

Well thanks ladies I really don't want to fall out with them and fingers crossed it's just a new dog thing and will settle

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nooldernowiser · 08/01/2015 13:36

The poo wont smell- it will go solid and dry up in warm weather. It will degrade overtime. It is in their garden not yours. It isn't an environmental health issue.

GokTwo · 08/01/2015 13:56

OP I love dogs. I have a large dog in small terraced house. I walk her ALOT and am extremely considerate of my neighbours. She barks very loudly if someone is at the door for about 5 seconds but is otherwise silent. So silent that our neighbours on one side didn't even know we had a dog for about 6 months! When she was a puppy she did bark a little bit at night but certainly not for hours and hours. I made sure my neighbours were ok with this and got up really early to walk her. She never barks at night now and is really calm. As others have said it is probable that this new dog is a bit unsettled and will stop yapping soon, I really hope so.

I think your neighbours are being very inconsiderate to you in not acknowledging your frustration. It's just not acceptable to let a dog yap away all day and night. It's not "what they do" (beyond the settling period) and if it is they need to train them. My friend's dog sometimes wears a citronella collar that emits a short spray if he starts barking. It is very effective and not harmful. They simply cannot expect you to put up with that constant noise. If they wont be fair about it then I would contact the council. You may need to record the noise and make a note of times etc. We had to do this a couple of years ago when we had very noisy students living behind us. Best of luck, this is a tricky problem to solve.

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myfallingstar · 08/01/2015 13:59

Add message | Report | Message poster nooldernowiser Thu 08-Jan-15 13:36:10
The poo wont smell- it will go solid and dry up in warm weather. It will degrade overtime. It is in their garden not yours. It isn't an environmental health issue.
you clearly didn't read my post I did say this in my op

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ZingTheGreat · 08/01/2015 14:00

oh I thought you actually lived next to a family of dogs, raising a baby. like Mowgli and the pack of wolves. that would've been awesome and i would've had a lot of questions.

Now I'm just disappointed.

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myfallingstar · 08/01/2015 14:03

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MajesticWhine · 08/01/2015 14:07

We are a "dog family". And there's probably a turd or two out in the garden. I'm just wondering what all our neighbours think of us. Ah well.

nooldernowiser · 08/01/2015 14:13

you clearly didn't read my post I did say this in my op

You didnt read my post!

You said but surely as soon as it starts to get warm it will stink to high heaven

I said The poo wont smell- it will go solid and dry up in warm weather. It will degrade overtime. It is in their garden not yours. It isn't an environmental health issue.

And you replied quoting my post and saying you clearly didn't read my post I did say this in my op

You are the one who didnt read a post!

Shattered2014 · 08/01/2015 14:15

Could you be living next door to Lettuce above?

Topseyt · 08/01/2015 14:21

Errr, yes, the poo covered garden IS an issue for environmental health and possibly also the dog warden.

It is true that us dog owners do not necessarily have to pick up immediately in our own gardens, but we are not allowed to let them become a health hazard in any way. Yes, you can (eventually anyway) be reported to the dog wardens and/or environmental health if you leave tons of dog poo all over your garden.

I generally pick up after my two every day. Not always as and when, but daily. Sometimes if the weather is particularly awful it might have to wait just a little while, but never for days or weeks on end.

Re the noise, it does sound as though the new dog is still rather unsettled, so with a little bit of luck it should settle down. Each of mine were like that for the first handful of nights after coming to live with us. It soon settled down, and I was actually extremely glad that my house is detached. Any dog finding itself in a new home can feel unsettled and may be vocal about it. Also, some breeds are more vocal than others. That said though, it is usually possible to take better control of it than your neighbour seems to have done.

ZingTheGreat · 08/01/2015 14:25

noolder

sorry but you sound like a toddler "mummy she didn't read my post" "I did too, but you didn't read my post"

cut that out and focus! there are dogs and a baby, everyone knows that the best stories have both.

grocklebox · 08/01/2015 15:12

I live in a detached home, my neighbours have dogs. They have had them for years. One is an awful yappy little thing, it barks for fucking hours and its high pitched and deeply annoying. They don't care, they leave it outside yapping away until all hours.
Some dog owners are just bloody selfish and don't care about the noise their neighbours have to put up with. They want a dog so everyone else has to just put up with it.

grumpyoldgitagain · 08/01/2015 15:17

Actually it is an environmemtal health issue the poo in the garden, we used to live in a terrace house years ago with small yards and one owner had an alsation with a lot of poo not cleaned up very often.

Environmental health told them to clean it up regularly and disinfect or they would prosecute as it was a health hazard to neighbours

Topseyt · 08/01/2015 18:14

As a dog owner, I agree that it is totally unreasonable to allow any dog to bark outdoors for any length of time.

My two (labrador and cocker spaniel) are normally only out in the garden alone for a few minutes at a time when they need toilet visits. If they kick off whilst they are out there I go out and they are brought straight in.

I used to get the odd problem when I had neighbours with an unspayed bitch. I could work out when she was in season because she drove my male labrador barmy, and he isn't a big barker (he is castrated, btw). She would be just inches away on the other side of the fence and he would fling himself at it and bellow. I would then have to steam off down the garden to collar him and propel him inside.

I would NEVER leave them out in the garden when I have to go out. Partly because they might bark and annoy neighbours, and partly for their own security (fear of dog theft etc.).

Lilmissconcerned · 08/01/2015 21:23

So from your post their dog barked all night ..then your baby cried all day? Sounds like at the moment your both just going to have to live and let live.

I have a dog that granted likes a bark in the garden, but it's usually at my neighbours cat or their grandkids playing ball kicking it in alleyway or banging next door. I'm with wheredidiparkmybroom.. My odd dog bark is nothing compared to the screaming and squealing their grandkids do at 6.30am on a Sunday. Maybe you could do what I did and move your bed to opposite side of wall...

If it's not random guard marking like mine is and is just ongoing outside I agree with other poster env health will help

Wellieswithaholein · 08/01/2015 22:51

It will settle...eventually

AIBU to wish I never bought a house next to a dog family

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