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AIBU?

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to be annoyed that this lady kissed my toddler, on the mouth!

37 replies

whyareallthegoodnicknamestaken · 07/01/2015 20:09

Just had a lovely meal with family, sweesweet older lady was our waitress spent the whole time cooing over ds (20 months) and when we where leaving I gave her a tip and she leaned in and gave ds a peck on the mouth.
I'm sure she was being friendly but I was Abit taken aback by it, never mind the germs..
obviously there's nothing I can do about it now but AIBU to think kissing someone else's toddler on the mouth is just a bit weird?

OP posts:
WinterShivers · 07/01/2015 22:25

YANBU She should not have done that, I would have been fuming!

KissMyFatArse · 07/01/2015 23:55

Mamalaz. Thank you, I think so too ??

Theboodythatrocked · 08/01/2015 00:15

Did you tip? Wink

Gruntfuttock · 08/01/2015 00:19

I have never kissed a child on the lips in my life, and yes, I am a mother. In fact, the only person in my family that I have kissed on the lips is my husband. I wouldn't have liked it if I was the OP, although I doubt any harm has been done really.

Bartlebee · 08/01/2015 00:32

Most inappropriate and just yucky. The ick factor would bother me more than potential germs.

I'm another who has never mouth kissed my own children, though. Cheeks for everyone except my dh.

FightOrFlight · 08/01/2015 00:38

YABU

No tongues, no foul.

FightOrFlight · 08/01/2015 00:39

Sorry, realised that was inappropriate Blush

Flomple · 08/01/2015 00:51

Both my children as toddlers insisted on giving mouth to mouth kisses even though we didn't kiss them that way. And then they got very put out if you tried to move round for a cheek kiss. So we did mouth kissing for a good while.

I expect she's just used to doing it with another child and didn't think too much about it.

CakeInMyFace · 08/01/2015 08:06

Yanbu. Why do some people think its ok to be so intimate with children? If she had kissed an adult on the lips it would be assault. Maybe a bit ott but just because ita a child doesn't mean boundaries do t apply. This would have bothered me too.

benfoldsfive · 08/01/2015 08:16

Was it not a miss kiss. I did this once to my boss? Blush

ChattyAndCatty · 08/01/2015 10:09

Loads of people kiss my DD, she has always been sociable and friendly, she draws people in. They seem to do it before they've even realised it. I don't mind, it's not an issue BUT none of them have ever done it on the lips, and I think I'd react the same way as you, a polite smile and say nothing, but inside I'd be thinking 'wtf'
Most give a little kiss on the head, or cheek, which as I said, I don't mind, I think it's sweet, but on the lips is odd. I wouldn't kiss another persons child on the lips.

I was holding a baby at a mother and baby group a few months ago, I know the mum a bit, but I only see her at the group, as I was holding this bub and chatting away I found myself kissing her on the cheek, I didn't even think about the fact she wasn't my child. I apologised to her mum, but thankfully she is like me and thought it was sweet.
It's like a second nature for me...

My doctor kissed all my babies, snuggled them, made huge fusses over them etc which a friend of mine thought was weird, it never crossed my mind to think so, I've had the same doctor since I was about 2, he's always loved children, especially babies. I think again, it's second nature for him. He was delighted when I walked in one day and plonked DD down in his arms at our 6 week check up, 'You know me so well' he said Grin

Theboodythatrocked · 08/01/2015 10:16

What a lovely doctor chatty

When my dh was in Italy a male collegue kissed him on the lips. He was very suprised. Grin

Couid be a cultural thing op

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