About the biscuit?

[Jefferson]

Play date with friend at her house. Both with children aged 3-4.

Friend makes pot of tea for us and brings out some biscuits.

The kids get those plain non sugar ones for babies. I think it was the Heinz biscotti ones. We get chocolate cookies. DS comes over to get one of mine. Friends says oh no he can't have one because then mine will want one too and he doesn't get real biscuits.

So I have to say no. DS (only just turned 3) has meltdown as he can see this plate full of biscuits that only grown ups are allowed to eat. Ends in me saying to friend actually I'm alright you can take the biscuits away, I won't have any (DS still tantrumming). I know his behaviour wasn't great but he is 3 and didn't really understand why he was getting rubbishy biscuits while we got to scoff cookies.

AIBU that this was a bit mean of her?

I was and still am quite strict about DS diet. He doesn't get cookies/cakes etx very often. But if a plate of goodies come out for the family I don't deprive him. I just thought it was really mean.

DS eats everything i eat, it makes my diet a lot healthier and sometimes makes his a little bit more chocolatey.

I have to echo what apocalypse said. Why did she bring out the cookies. If she didn't want the children to have cookies. Of course a three year old is going to have a meltdown if they cant have what they want. I'm 39 and still piss and moan when I dont get my own way.
Those my child only eats homegrown veg and organic wholesome food, I'm so perfect. I'm nearly God type of mothers really wind me up

Finally got fine to come back to this.
Glad I wasn't being unreasonable!
It can't have been Heinz then. Was definitely something sugar free

*got time

I thought was to go with a

Silly me!!

Sugar-free biscuits? Cream crackers perhaps?

It wi have been them ones that are "naturally" sweetened with grape juice etc. If you're gonna give your kid a biscuit, just give them a bloody biscuit, not a pretend one!

I eat biscuits while I give my DD grapes or raisins because she likes them and they're healthier than a biscuit. I eat Matchmakers in front of her while I give her a banana. I tell her they're mummy's and as long as she's getting something she likes she doesn't argue. I gave DH a chocolate digestive the other day and her a cracker. She was happy. That's how I do things.

However I do not tell my friends what they can and can't do and whilst I always offer their children the same fruit I give my DD if they want to give their DC one of the biscuits I've brought out for us then they can go ahead. I will still tell my DD that she's got her grapes (or whatever).

I'm a big fan of cake sharing. However I would vastly limit the amount of crisps/cake/biscuit a child with a small appetite has if there was any risk they wouldn't eat their tea. Unhealthy treats are non essential.