I'm so cross, I actually feel on the verge of splitting up with him due to his behaviour.
He has had form in the past for, at times, just disengaging from family life and thinking he can do as he wants and that I will pick up all the slack regarding the children and the house. When he is in this mode it's hard to even get his attention to speak to him; he gets very focused on his phone or films, or the games console and just tunes out from us all. This maybe happens two or three times a year for a few days.
However, we have both been off work since the day before Christmas Eve, so two weeks, and he has been like it for the whole of the holidays, and I am totally pissed off about it.
It started on Christmas Eve really; we'd agreed that he would take the DCs out for a couple of hours so that I could finish wrapping presents and get other things sorted. On Christmas Eve itself he just sat around the house and each time I suggested that he took the DCs out he said he'd do it 'in a bit'. Of course, it eventually got too late, so he came up with the idea that he'd entertain them downstairs with a film whilst I shut myself away upstairs and did wrapping. Only he just stuck a film on and left them to it, hence our 5 year old kept wandering into our bedroom when I was wrapping!
On Christmas day DH was semi helpful, ie he loaded the dishwasher and did a bit of tidying, but he mainly just disengaged from us all and sat in front of the tv.
And he has done the same all holidays! Gradually over the fortnight he has stopped doing anything, and he has seemingly tuned out of speaking to us all if we speak to him. DS asked him 6 times yesterday for a drink and DH just sat there watching telly and I said to DH "DS has asked you for a drink", and even then DH tried to think of ways to avoid doing it, saying "you've only just had one" and "get a chair and take it to the fridge and get yourself some juice".
He has also not done any mealtimes for the kids, and not thought to feed them either. I've left things a couple of times to see if he gets them anything but he doesn't. Last night it was getting towards tea time and DH, who had been watching a film all afternoon, just carried on watching the film. He seemingly just switched off all holiday and gave no thought or consideration to anyone except himself.
The not listening thing has pissed me off so much too. So frustrating to speak to someone who just looks at you blankly then turns back to the the phone/film/x box game.
DH has gone back to work today; I am not back until tomorrow as I took today off as our DC are not back at school until tomorrow. He left very early and when I got up he'd left the house downstairs in a total fucking mess and left lights on everywhere for me to switch off! It's like having a bloody toddler!
AIBU to be pissed off with his behaviour and to be thinking of splitting up with him over it all?