To ask that DH wear jeans that suit his bigger size

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I know I am probably BU and he should be allowed to wear what he wants.

He wears a suit for work that he looks good in but he is getting too big for his old jeans and hasn't bought new ones. Most of the old ones are size 40 waist and he's more like a 50 waist now so they end up low slung under the belly. They constantly creep lower even with a belt and he is often showing off his pants like a teenager and the bottoms get all ragged from standing on them. He has to pull them up all the time and if his hands are not free he is in real danger of the jeans falling all the way down. As well as that he has favourite T-shirts that don't meet the jeans any more so there's bare belly overhang. It's making me cringe but if I mention it he says I am overreacting.

I have tried buying new jeans myself but can't find any big enough in normal shops to go around his waist. If he wanted to buy from the 'big and tall' type mens shops he would have to go and get measured, which he won't do because he thinks his old jeans still fit. Arrghh! AIBU? Should I just let him wear the old stuff if he wants to?

He is 5 10. I just ordered some clothes on jacamo on credit card so I can send back some. Great idea! Got 10 percent off too.

You can great elastic belts on Amazon (they don't look like they are made of elastic) that are helpful!

I asked about height because Slaters a) do free alterations and b) have a tall range
I'm glad you have started him off OP.
For those pushing the point about health, obviously it is a concern. He is, presumably, a grown up and he is fully aware of this. Making him feel bad about it is only likely to make the situation worse. The action the op is taking might make him feel better, and the better he feels the more likely he will be to lose weight. Being miserable is never a good combination with a diet, makes it even harder, especially for emotional eaters.

Second slaters. DH was a 44 waist and 3xl he buys most of his clothes from there, cheaper than jacamo and better service IMO.

DH has lost 4 stone low carving, he finds it very easy to stick to and is looking loads better, belly overhang is just about gone

Well done to you both for recognising that you can change the way you look/feel about yourselves and for actually starting to do something about it. I think it's a great idea getting him jeans that for his comfort and also as a nod to the fact that he can't cling on to those ill-fitting jeans anymore - may strike a chord mentally for him. Could I suggest that you don't mention the website/shop stocks larger to him though? I say this as my dSis has always struggled with her weight and when she realised that there were plus size shops she liked she stopped bothering about getting back to a more healthy size. she got comfortable and is now in the 'hate my size so I eat' cycle, iyswim? good luck!

YANBU to try to influence his choice of jeans if you would be happy for him to influence yours (or other clothes that you wear). If not, YAB a bit U. In any case, if he's already trying to lose weight, it might not be the best time for him to get any more new clothes as they might not fit him for long. Why not suggest you both get some new clothes when you've lost x amount of weight? You could even go for a session with a personal shopper, as he might be more likely to believe a different size would suit him better if an "expert" tells him.

Suspenders? I like the idea of a photo too. But he wants new jeans, that's great.